Edgewater
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Being male and open to your dear wife that you are slowing becoming IC is never an easy thing (I had a like discussion regarding my heart issues). We tend to want to be that strong healthy caregiver that she can depend on!DiaperedJoey said:I am incontinent, so my wife knows I am wearing a diaper. Before, when it was by choice, I didnt hide it from her and she didnt care. I opened up to her at the beginning of our relationship, as she should know what she was getting into. With that said, I actually have a hard time opening up about my incontinence with her. She obviously knows, but as it worsens, I am hesitant to tell her. I think its I feel like a failure. Wearing diapers was something I chose and controlled, but mastery over my bladder and bowel I am losing, and for some reason that is more humiliating too me.
Joey
There is no such thing as a great moment, but one has to choose some time when you are both not busy and have the discussion. Regardless of the discussion, the sooner the better! Offer her the opportunity to attend your next meeting with your Medical Team.