SourPatchSquid
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I've found diapers relaxing for as long as I can remember. One of my most vivid childhood memories, is getting a lecture from my mom when I requested to be put back into pull-ups. I couldn't have been any older than 5. I've carried that shame with me ever since, continually going through purge/binge cycles. I struggle with anxiety, when it's really bad I have a hard time with interoception, to the point of struggling to know when/if my bladder needs relieved. So not only have diapers been a comfort thing, there's a security aspect for me as well. During purge cycles or when I'm faking it, I just "tough it out" which is no fun, and can take the enjoyment out of enjoyable activities. My biggest purge, was right before I got in my current relationship 4 years ago. I wasn't brave enough to bring it up at the time, even though I had become comfortable with wearing them somewhat regularly, when I needed to. About a year into the relationship, we had a moment where we opened up about some things that we had never really discussed. I brought up the diapers. They said, "That doesn't bother me at all, if you wanted to go buy some right now I'd say go for it." I was shocked, not the response that my shame had led me to believe would happen. However, I didn't believe it. I didn't bring it up again for a while. I started going to therapy, and I started to discuss it there. My therapist helped me through some of the shame. I finally brought it up with my partner again, and the next time we were shopping, they talked me through buying some. I was too ashamed to ever wear them though, and here's where it gets confusing. My partner brought them up in an argument. They said, "If you're going to act like a child, go put on a diaper." I've brought it up once since then, and I was told it was fine, but then my partner went on to ramble about how they weren't sure they were attracted to it, even though I reassured it's non-sexual for me, and that it wouldn't be "all the time" just when I needed it. They went on to say they'd have a hard time seeing me in a diaper and thinking "Wow, that's my partner." and brought up caring for their grandmother who wore depends. I'm not sure which reaction to believe, or if maybe they're just reacting to the stigma, and need more time to get used to the idea. Either way I'm scared to bring it up again, which is a bummer because I really want to be excited about the new XL Goodnites