Pupbrandon said:
More lately I been hearing about chastity and one of my friends got me a CB-6000 (sadly wouldn't fit) but it got me thinking more and more in the community I hear about sissys being locked almost like it's a staple or expected of them.
I know this sounds like a foolish question but is it okay to be sissy and NOT be in chastity? Weather training or stories or experiences I understand it kinda throws off the idea in the first place of what it perceives but a guy or girl isn't just genitals. Any help or clarification Is appreciated in clearing this up. Thank you
I suspect this expectation may have to do in party with the differences in male and female sexuality.
Being feminized by someone, taking away the male sexuality can be a powerful tool in that.
My own feminization, included antiandrogens, and a period, lasting about six months, of having no sexuality at all. It gave me great confidence that while it can have a sexual component, my relationship to wearing diapers is mostly non-sexual. This total removal of my sexual functionality, the removal of what is perceived to be a core cornerstone of a masculine identity, helped me in realizing that this was never really me, because I didn't mind, not in the slightest, giving it up.
My sexuality returned, six months later, and it was very different. Things just didn't work as they used to, and it took a while to figure out that set and setting are a lot more important now, but get it right, then the experience is incredible. Before it was a chore I hated with a short reward of pleasure, rarely worth the dysphoria it caused unless done right. Now, lets just say multiple orgasms are definitely possible for trans women.
My sexuality now is a lot more subtle. Where before I'd make the analogy of it shouting and if I ignore it bullying me into doing something about the urge, it's now more of a:
"By the way, that would be fun, if you can find the time." that doesn't push at all, but will slowly start to have an effect on my mood if I ignore it for too long (weeks or months).
It is also a lot harder to get things right, on T, simple stimulation was usually enough, a nice picture was a bonus that sped things up. Now, a picture isn't even close to enough, I need to construct a whole scene, with complexity and detail, to keep my attention, make the characters in the scene have actual goals and emotions, and construct an emotional context, if I really want things to work. They payoff is a lot better and a lot longer lasting, especially if I can manage to keep the scene going.
I suspect the effect of long term chastity, which can lower testosterone, may allow for the sexuality of the person in chastity to shift more towards the female mode. Since the primary way to archive orgasm and gratification are denied, the brain will try and find alternative pathways to the goal. That those pathways exist in all humans should be clear, it's just hormones making one of the other more prominent, but if one is denied, it might be possible to tease out the other one.
It's weird, looking back at my fascination with forced feminization. I still love the consenting power play, also in other contexts, but the feminization part has lost its interest to me, because I'm already there. I'm a woman. Legally, hormonally, socially and in a lot of ways anatomically I meet the expectations people have for a woman. The only exception currently only noticeable if I'm completely naked.
I noticed a shift in the stories I write, for consenting play with power, giving the partner power over some parts of life, like allowing them to force a character to wear diapers and use them all the time, still often plays a role, but now my main characters either are women, or if they are being feminized there is no force there, they are simply given the opportunity to realize they are trans and then start to transition, playing with the still new role in society.
