Some good news. I sat down with my mom and showed her an article about AB/DL and cleared up some of the confusion. She is mostly concerned about how it will affect my future relationships, and I assured her that it is more a thing that I do alone, in private. I reaffirmed that it has nothing to do with pedophilia or any sexual attraction to children of any age. She is still concerned but I think her main worry is the size of my stash. I have a lot of diapers, mostly from thrift stores and some higher end that I ordered online or got from craigslist (A guy in my area usually has Molicares for $50-60 a case, and I got Abenas from another guy who had a whole bunch, $10 a bag. I do have many many packages, sizes from pull-ups 4t-5t all the way to XL, but most are my size). I think this is what concerned them the most. Anyways, it appears that she just wants me to control the amount I have at any one time as well as the smell and the chance that someone could discover this aspect of me. I would love to find a girlfriend who was aware of this kink/lifestyle and accepts it at the very least, but I should hope that a relationship would allow me to redirect a lot of the energy that I spend in this lifestyle.
I still feel like the best course of action is to keep everything private. I have had issues with bedwetting in the past, and still do very occasionally, but I feel that I need to keep it very private and to myself still. Even though they know, I really don't want this to come up a lot, and I certainly want to make them feel comfortable in their own home. When I move out, I still think I need to keep myself under control, so that I don't create problems for myself, but I think it might be a good idea to network with more people in my area around my age that are more like me (mostly trying to hide it from others, but comfortable with themselves)
Even though I got a lot off of my chest, I still fear what they think of me as a man. I hope it doesn't affect my future relationships, especially with them, but I think they are just glad that I have people to associate with and that I'm not doing drugs. It feels like I have done a lot but that I still have a lot of hoops to jump through.
Thanks for all of your support so far. I will continue to keep you all updated, now that I will probably need to confide in somebody from time to time.
As a side note, at least if I have advice on what kinds of diapers are best when they are in their golden years, they won't question that knowledge. No parents of mine will be wearing Prevail products for heavy incontinence lol.