mayhem said:
No, I typically do not say that I'm repulsed by something that I have no experience with.
Doesn't mean that asexual's have no experience with it. A LOT of us get pressured by people "OH YOU HAVE TO TRY IT! How can you know you don't like it if you don't try it?" So they do once or twice, get nothing from it and are somewhat exasperated when people say that again.
It goes from "Try it!" to "Well, you didn't get the right person/position/star alignment that time...try again!" to "There's something physically/mentally wrong with you."
Me? I know all about what sexual intercourse requires and I don't want it because the idea of someone stuffing part of their body inside mine kind of grosses me out. The same kind of grosses me out as if someone asked you to lick days old roadkill. O_O
So therefore, no, I do not need to 'try it' to know that I would probably just be terrified and disgusted. Thanks.
And asexuals get this reaction CONSTANTLY. I get badgered by people, well-meaning and just ignorant and pushy, that I should find 'somebody'. Even though I would be miserably unhappy. One guy said he would kidnap me and force me to marry him so I wouldn't be alone anymore and I said "I would kill myself, dude. I would totally just kill myself." So yeah.
I get along with people on a non-sexual level, I'll even giggle at people's lewd jokes or such, but I have zero interest in it and I make that clear on a daily basis to at least six people.
(Because they think I must be 'playing hard to get' and I'm not. Ugh.)
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babyboy said:
Why not if some one asks, just say you are not interested at this time. That all I say. People don't need to know what I am interested in or not interested it. It is non of their business if I am asexual or not, all they need to know is I am not interested in them or who they are trying to fix me up with.
And yes, finally someone said it, I find the idea of sex repulsive, it just sounds gross to me, first time someone described it to me, I felt like I was going to vomit.
I don't do this because everyone just keeps on trying anyway. To the point that it just irritates me and makes me grumpy and angry.
They 'double down' on trying to hook me up with someone. (Funny enough, the only two people who understand what I'm on about are a crazy redneck-looking beardman (my buddy at work) and a Muslim man who used to work with us. The Muslim guy told me "I'll send one of my daughters when you get old...she'll keep an eye on you!" XD)