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I'm so sorry to hear this iam32bit, this news is hard to take. No-one likes to hear that they have no choice but to wear diapers 24/7. People may fantasise it, but when faced with the actual situation, it sucks. Badly.
Adjusting to diapers takes time. It forces us to reconsider everything we were taught about growing up. Having walked down this path myself not so long ago, I know myself how bad it is. Right now the path ahead of you may seem impossible at times. You may have no idea where it goes. But there is a way forward. This is not the end.
It's not easy. But it gets easier.
Like you, I have a number of other health issues, one of which we later found to be the cause of my incon, but because my condition wasn't typical, it took me ten years to find out what was going on. And in my case, they can't do anything to fix me so I need to stay padded.
Although I've been wearing diapers 24/7, since 2011, it took me five years to stop blaming myself for what happened. It then took me another 18 months to finally feel comfortable and relaxed about wearing and using my diapers without feeling guilty
It's not easy. But it gets easier.
Having to wear diapers but not knowing what was going on with my bladder (and nor did any doctors or urologists), took a toll on my mental health, to the point where I had to get help and receive in-depth Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It took months and it was hard work, and when I realised how much I was blaming myself, I didn't think I'd ever be able to change my way of thinking, as I had been doing it that way for so long. Thankfully, I've found a better way, which means I'm much kinder to myself than I used to be.
From your previous posts, I realise that because of certain experiences you've faced in the past, you may be feeling embarrassed and ashamed about your incontinence. These are feelings that we all face. What you're feeling right now is normal. While it may be more severe in your case, these feelings of helplessness, shame, guilt and failure are something that anyone who has become incontinent will face.
I strongly suggest that you should get some counselling to help you adjust to this new situation. While it may feel embarrasing, it's important that you get help from someone who understands, and gives you a more balanced view. It will also help you open up and become more relaxed about talking about your incontinence. When I first started wearing I couldn't even say the word diaper. Now I'm able to say anything about my condition to anyone and I don't even care if my diaper shows a bit by accident. I just pull my jeans up and carry on.
It's not easy, but it gets easier.
It also sounds like some counselling would help you face some of these issues in your past. Sometimes, you have to face your fears head-on, and prove that you are stronger. I don't know if you're into science fiction, but the Litany Against Fear from Dune really helped me face my fears, rather than hide from them.
"I must not fear
Fear is the mind-killer
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past
I will turn the Inner Eye to see its path
When the Fear has gone, there will be Nothing
Only I will Remain."
Please message me if you'd like to talk further. I've added you as a friend on here.
Breathe Deep, Seek Peace
Dinotopian2002
Adjusting to diapers takes time. It forces us to reconsider everything we were taught about growing up. Having walked down this path myself not so long ago, I know myself how bad it is. Right now the path ahead of you may seem impossible at times. You may have no idea where it goes. But there is a way forward. This is not the end.
It's not easy. But it gets easier.
Like you, I have a number of other health issues, one of which we later found to be the cause of my incon, but because my condition wasn't typical, it took me ten years to find out what was going on. And in my case, they can't do anything to fix me so I need to stay padded.
Although I've been wearing diapers 24/7, since 2011, it took me five years to stop blaming myself for what happened. It then took me another 18 months to finally feel comfortable and relaxed about wearing and using my diapers without feeling guilty
It's not easy. But it gets easier.
Having to wear diapers but not knowing what was going on with my bladder (and nor did any doctors or urologists), took a toll on my mental health, to the point where I had to get help and receive in-depth Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It took months and it was hard work, and when I realised how much I was blaming myself, I didn't think I'd ever be able to change my way of thinking, as I had been doing it that way for so long. Thankfully, I've found a better way, which means I'm much kinder to myself than I used to be.
From your previous posts, I realise that because of certain experiences you've faced in the past, you may be feeling embarrassed and ashamed about your incontinence. These are feelings that we all face. What you're feeling right now is normal. While it may be more severe in your case, these feelings of helplessness, shame, guilt and failure are something that anyone who has become incontinent will face.
I strongly suggest that you should get some counselling to help you adjust to this new situation. While it may feel embarrasing, it's important that you get help from someone who understands, and gives you a more balanced view. It will also help you open up and become more relaxed about talking about your incontinence. When I first started wearing I couldn't even say the word diaper. Now I'm able to say anything about my condition to anyone and I don't even care if my diaper shows a bit by accident. I just pull my jeans up and carry on.
It's not easy, but it gets easier.
It also sounds like some counselling would help you face some of these issues in your past. Sometimes, you have to face your fears head-on, and prove that you are stronger. I don't know if you're into science fiction, but the Litany Against Fear from Dune really helped me face my fears, rather than hide from them.
"I must not fear
Fear is the mind-killer
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past
I will turn the Inner Eye to see its path
When the Fear has gone, there will be Nothing
Only I will Remain."
Please message me if you'd like to talk further. I've added you as a friend on here.
Breathe Deep, Seek Peace
Dinotopian2002