Joey, My incontinence stems from an unexpected side effect of surgery when I was 14 years old. I’m 75 now; so I’ve been dealing with bladder-control issues for many years. Following the surgery, I bled excessively and developed an infection that almost killed me. I ended up spending 3 months in hospital for a procedure that should have required only 3 or 4 days of hospitalization. I’ve never been reliably dry at night since that time and have slept in night diapers ever since. After getting out of hospital, I also had to wear daytime diapers. But I was a fanatic about doing Kegel exercises and got to the point that I could generally go without a daytime diaper by the time I went away to university. Things went on like that (diapered at night but not usually during the day) until I was in my 40s, at which time I gradually lost my daytime control. At this point, I’ve been in diapers 24/7/365 for about 30 years. Needing to wear a diaper is a major nuisance, but I have managed to lead a resonably normal and successful professional and personal life. So hang in there. You too can be successful despite your incontinence.