extremecomfy said:
Whoa I am on a binge right now. I believe being a DL can start at a young age and then become a sexual fetish once puberty starts. According to the DSM a paraphilia is a sexual attraction to an object. Ie a diaper. The word fetish is simply a choice of words. BTW, when did you become a behavioral therapist? As for being my personal grammar coach, "YOU'RE FIRED!" lmao...
Yeah... I was wearing diapers for pleasure loooooong before puberty. Was it
sexual before puberty, though? It's interesting to wonder. Clearly the attraction defied reason. I mean, like most other kids, I associated diapers with babies and knew that I was too old for them, didn't need them, etc. The idea of being caught wearing them terrified me, too. And yet, at the same time, I
really wanted them! It was so weird, and I felt very alone about it.
I was fortunate that my parents had kept all of my sister's and my old cloth diapers, as it made dealing with the urges easy. Some of the diapers were kept in the house as cleaning rags, and many more were boxed up and stored in the garage. The pins were kept too, although I never found the plastic pants. Using the diapers for their intended purpose would have meant washing them, which wasn't easily done. Instead, I'd often just pin them on and go to bed. That was bliss. It wasn't until I was 12 that it occurred to me to masturbate while diapered, and in fact my first experience with... er... "productive" masturbation occurred while I was wearing a diaper. After that, diapers were pretty obviously a sexual thing to me. If they weren't sexual before that, though, then the sexual aspect was at least inevitable.
Or that's what I believe.
For me, self-acceptance finally came when I was a freshman in college and stumbled upon the alt.sex.fetish.diapers newsgroup on usenet. That was in late 1994. It was a major "wow" moment for me. I knew I wasn't alone. At the same time, the super-sexed discussions in the newsgroup weren't the sort of thing I wanted to get involved with. It would still be many years before I talked to anybody else about diapers.
I don't see broad acceptance for diaper fetishes coming anytime soon, though. The vast,
vast majority of diaper-wearers are babies and incontinent adults, and in both cases the diapers are reasonably viewed as an unfortunate necessity. From that negative perspective, it's understandable that people who
want to wear diapers are considered strange. How do you work against that stigma? I'm not honestly sure there
is a way. Diapers are negatively stigmatized in childhood for practically every child. I struggle to think of another sexual difference that has to overcome that. Even in the case of homosexuality and transgender, a lot is implied. With diapers, though, parents don't beat around the bush at all: "Diapers are yucky. Diapers are for babies. Big kids don't wear diapers." :shrug: Whaddaya do? You just keep on keepin' on.
