Tommycombs
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This post is an epic moment for me. I've been a lurker within the ABDL community for years but never ever reached out to others.
I'm a forty-something married guy with kids and all of my life I've struggled with accepting my peculiarities. Mainly, my overwhelming desire to wear diapers. As a kid it creeped me out and as a highly sensitive person, who was harassed and teased in school, not to mention, emotionally abused by an older sibling, that meant that nobody could ever, EVER find out about this. I thought I was the only one and struggled with it for years, doing the binge and purge cycle.
When I got together with my wife, I assumed I would take this secret to my grave and I'd just have to deal with not having it in my life. I finally realized I had to tell her. That was the first, and until now, only time I've ever told anybody. Just because of fears of being labeled a freak and weirdo. She was supportive but admitted she isn't going to be my mommy. She's OK with it but it doesn't do anything for her. So I indulge in times of privacy, which she knows and is cool with.
For me though, although it involves the same private regions, it isn't sexual. It usually ends up with the same result, of course, but my brain creates a completely different high from it. To the point that combining it with sex is always odd because my brain doesn't know which pleasure pathway to follow. This is a calming thing. I realize it's been with me all my life. Another thing I've always done is comb and pet my hair. I still do this when it grows out long enough. I don't even think about it. It's a stress reliever and even that creeps me with other around.
The point is I have mental health issues too. I have borderline personality disorder and avoidant personality disorder. Basically my brain creates way too much emotion and it over processes everything. So I'm amped up, stress wise pretty much all the time. Before I started medicating with cannabis, my main go to was cutting. I am still a bad cutter and this diaper/ baby thing is a safe alternative that alleviates the same stress. But my fear of big, bad society's reactions have stopped me from reaching out. I know I'm not alone, and I'm battling to accept this harmless but weird part of my character.
I'm a forty-something married guy with kids and all of my life I've struggled with accepting my peculiarities. Mainly, my overwhelming desire to wear diapers. As a kid it creeped me out and as a highly sensitive person, who was harassed and teased in school, not to mention, emotionally abused by an older sibling, that meant that nobody could ever, EVER find out about this. I thought I was the only one and struggled with it for years, doing the binge and purge cycle.
When I got together with my wife, I assumed I would take this secret to my grave and I'd just have to deal with not having it in my life. I finally realized I had to tell her. That was the first, and until now, only time I've ever told anybody. Just because of fears of being labeled a freak and weirdo. She was supportive but admitted she isn't going to be my mommy. She's OK with it but it doesn't do anything for her. So I indulge in times of privacy, which she knows and is cool with.
For me though, although it involves the same private regions, it isn't sexual. It usually ends up with the same result, of course, but my brain creates a completely different high from it. To the point that combining it with sex is always odd because my brain doesn't know which pleasure pathway to follow. This is a calming thing. I realize it's been with me all my life. Another thing I've always done is comb and pet my hair. I still do this when it grows out long enough. I don't even think about it. It's a stress reliever and even that creeps me with other around.
The point is I have mental health issues too. I have borderline personality disorder and avoidant personality disorder. Basically my brain creates way too much emotion and it over processes everything. So I'm amped up, stress wise pretty much all the time. Before I started medicating with cannabis, my main go to was cutting. I am still a bad cutter and this diaper/ baby thing is a safe alternative that alleviates the same stress. But my fear of big, bad society's reactions have stopped me from reaching out. I know I'm not alone, and I'm battling to accept this harmless but weird part of my character.