Huh!
Well, being IC does give good cover...if ever caught...although don't know if i've ever been caught!...
As for secret, I agree with Trevor...More private...
Do many people go around talking about bondage...Yeah a few...But not many compared to how main stream that is!
It's like how often would you talk about your underwear...or anything semi private...Sure with a partner or close friend...
Myself, All my GF's and a few very close friends and my staff(assistants/nurses) know...but, it's nothing I go around advertising...
Now myself, if found out...Without advertising would be odd...As I own my own place, and what I do at home is my business...
Now, that being said I do have house guests for music or film projects staying with me about 20 plus days a month...(Minus lately cuz of some medical issues)...
My master suite and staff rooms are on the 3rd floor and take up the entire west wing of the house...The guests stay in the east wing on the 3rd floor and there only a large 20x50' hallway overlooking the main staircase between them, so without going specifically there not going to enter my suite...And I usually dress in shorts and t-shirt for doing music production...I never dress up anymore...
Bottom line, If someone saw...They went out of their way to look/snoop...and people of that sorta character i don't usually have stay over...I'm a private person...in fact one musician I work with has never even seen of know what my master suite or even the staff rooms look like...
My place is also a place of business and I wouldnt push my personal private affairs on people...As other I've had staying here for sometimes months strait bring GF's and such...I know some don't tell the wife/other GF's...Some do...but thats their business...
As i respect other peoples privacy they do mine...Its quid pro quo...Or some damn thing like that