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I'm so sorry to hear her reaction hurt you. I felt that. My mother is one who had a similar reaction when she found out. It hurts. The good news is, there are people out there who do understand and, even if they can't empathize (having not walked in our shoes), they are still compassionate.Stargazer93 said:I've seen a lot of individual thread where its "I told person A" or "I told person B" but they drop down and get buried on different pages pretty quick. So I wanted to make a dedicated thread for if you told someone for the first time and to share you experience and get support if if didn't go so great.
Well, I told my Aunt monday and it didn't go so great and I'm still processing that. My aunt is the greatest listener in my life. Better than any therapist by far. I sat with her and talked for hours about tons of different pyschological stuff that was bothering me and she always seems to understand and give good feedback. So I thought that's a green light to bring up the AB Stuff and the look she gave me really hurt. Despite me trying to explain it all she could muster was "you want to be a baby???" and I'm like "its not a choice". Her: "well you have to throw that out" and my response was "sure, I can throw it out, but I can't throw out my brain". ugh...
How do you talk for hours on end and this one thing is the "problem", ugh... But anyway I sat down and wrote a decent sized and very deeply thought out explanation, so next time I see her I'll give it another shot. Just feeling kind of meh over the whole thing. And context I'm in my 30's and she's like 71. I value her opinion and love her, so I just wanted her to understand.
As always I just want to say how much I appreciate this place, since its here and only here where there's a full understanding of what we experience and I don't have to feel bad about myself, and get what I just said off my chest.
I know this road can be a very lonely one to walk sometimes.
I'm not sure what you may have said in your written response but, I encourage you not to apologize for being yourself.
Also, while I don't know your aunt, it seems like she loves you. Many people, even loved ones, have a hard time wrapping their minds around this. Some are more uncomfortable about it than others; however, it doesn't mean they don't care. They just may need time because, to them, it's unusual and not a societal "norm".
I hope the best for you.
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