I would like to update my situation since this summer.
Dating while urinary issues is complicated...
In September and October we had few dates. To be honest I was in love with her and was doing my best to impress her. New hair cut, clothes... Also I wore the thinnest protection possible (Tena Lady pads) in order to try to hide or minimise my real issues around her. Of course I couldn't hide the constant trips to the bathroom. She knew about my protections, and even saw the bags in my bathroom. But she never saw me naked in them. And I didn't left a wet one in her house.
At first we had wonderful times. I was taking it slow but we had sex in my bed one afternoon in November. I showered before and with both loved it. I was in heaven
She insisted to spend the night in my bed afterwards. It became real about revealing my true incontinence issues. I had to show up with a big Molicare pull up under my pyjamas. She saw the bulge and smiled trying to reassure me. She seems quite as embarrassed as me but told me that she new about the bigger protections because they saw them in my bathroom. And figured I would need more help during the night.
That night I did set my alarm on order to get up first and took a shower. When I came back in my room, we cuddled and had sex again
I was so reassured and confident that the night after I invited her again but didn't think about the alarm in the morning. Maybe also because we had some wine in the evening... But in the morning my worst fear came true. We woke up at the same time. And without thinking, half asleep, I let her cuddle me. Until she touched my butt, obviously wanting for more, and suddenly moved away.
I realised immediately what was wrong. I was feeling very wet and it also had leaked into my pyjamas and bed. She looked at me questioningly without speaking. So I went for a rant trying to explain that I couldn't help it. That I very rarely wet so much that even the bed is wet. That I usually manage by drinking less in the evening, wearing this type of protection and shower in the morning.
She seems a bit sad. Her look was not as supportive as I had hoped
. Only said that she understood and that it must be difficult to manage. Also asked me if I can hope for medical solutions.
When I finally lifted the sheets to go to the shower, we both noticed the smell and the small stain under me and onto my pyjamas. When I went back in my bedroom afterwards, she wasn't theire but the window was opened.
We didn't talk about it during the rest of the day except in the afternoon. My pad leaked a bit on my pants while we were at some common friend. I replaced the pad but she noticed the very small patch on my pant. If was uncomfortable so we left.
We were supposed to sleep in her apartment. But she bluntly told me that she would prefer sleep alone and rest. I told her that I would be better prepared than the night before, without too much drinking in the afternoon / evening and that she can sleep at home if that's the concern.
During the ride home, the admitted that she needed time to think about our relationship. That she wasn't ready for that. I cringed and asked what was "that"?
. Her answer was that be with me always means adapt the program to make toilet brakes possible, dealing with protections, leaks and smell even in front of other people... The worst part was that she admitted that she couldn't stand that her bed and sheets smells like my nighttime protections.
I never saw her again