Hi all,
Here is some news.
Our diner and evening together was nice
I was so nervous at first... But after a long hug we started a deep open-minded talk.
I think I barely never felt authorized to speak as freely without being judged. It felt good (even better than with my psychologist)! Also a bit weird to discuss in details my incontinence issues seating on her couch with a glass of wine.
I told her how I felt miserable to be ditched because of health issues that I can't control. That I got so many bad reactions from potential partners in the past that I'm feeling very insecure.
She admitted that it's difficult for her to cope with my issues. That it changed the way she sees me as a girlfriend. That my issues are worst than she initially understood and that it impacts a lot of things regarding our relationship (psychological, practical...). She had the feeling that I tried to hide the most inconvenient parts to her. Inconveniences like permanent use of big protections, leaks, smells, required number of without warning bathroom breaks...
The worst and awkward part of the talk was when she confess that she had doubts about my laziness and hygiene about it
. In the same time she seemed kind and ready to understand me.
So I explained in details how difficult it is for me to deal with it. That I wanted to impress her and hide my real issues to both of us. That for once I wanted to feel attractive and desired. But it might not have been the best way to deal with my incontinence. I explained her in detail without underestimate what I face with and how I deal with it. Explained that at the moment my OAB is at is worst, that I don't manage to properly empty my bladder so that it dribbles and gushes regularly by itself. Hence the difficulty to remain dry. Even while being close to the bathrooms and the need to use more than thin pads. Even worse during the night.
Even got up and showed her the waistband of my thin Tena Pant pull up. It was so strange to see her examine me and state that it was only visible under my jeans because she knows I have it on.
At the end we both seemed relieved about this talk. She told me that she will try to overcome her preconceived feeling about incontinence and attached stigmas. That she still wants to see me and will do her best to support me. And I agreed to to my best to manage my issues in a responsible way without feeling ashamed.
Afterward, the subject was not discussed again during diner. I loved the afterward cuddling under a blanket on her couch. We didn't even watched the TV show (always on pause because we wanted to talk). But we both agreed that we wouldn't spend the night together yet.
When I woke up from her couch I felt more wet than expected (felt me dribble but wasn't worried or too uncomfortable to get up and change). But she looked strangely at me and at her couch. Don't know if she smelled me when we lift up the blanket (I'm getting quite nose blind), if my protection was oddly more bulging or if she was only worried about potential leaks on her couch... However I felt awkward with her reaction. And didn't felt comfortable with the idea to replace my protection before leaving. Maybe to show off and let her know it wasn't so bad and could wail til home. I will talk to her about that next time
. I guess she needs time to adjust with my issues.
Then we had a proper kiss and I went home. We will have another diner at home this evening. I look forward to it. She is so cute and I love spending time with her
. Hope we will make it work!