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Karoq said:Hi.
Saying hello from another Brit and who likes reading your posts and profile.
Like you I like towelling nappies best for night time. More comfortable and absorbant as well as more environmentally friendly. Over the years Ive used carefully folded appropriately sized white towels with a slightly larger than normal baby Terry square folded in 3 lengthways as a soaker (Boots used to sell what they classed as overnight ferries which were thicker and about 3 inch bigger so end up with a 27 x 9 soaker. All pinned on and covered with plastic pants of course. I later (from about 2015) discovered Snuggleblanks shaped Velcro fastening nappies which I ordered custom made to my size and I love them. Struggling now in UK to get good, roomy, reliable plastic or PUL pants though now. Arizona who I used to buy from no longer trade. Some of the incontinence on line shops have some but they aren’t really wide enough in crotch to give the right balance between roomy fit and effective coverage of the whole nappy without leaving exposed nappy at legs. Ideally you should be free enough to wriggle and move without putting strain on the plastic at the legs but without being so roomy that the pants don’t support a wet and heavy nappy. Wondering if you have any advice ?
By the way I am a 60 year old man, a late developer and bedwetter as a child - in nappies at night until mid teens but who, through my experience of wearing a lot when young, always had a strong desire for nappies and plastic pants. As a young adult I occasionally and secretly wore both Terry nappies and disposables when I could and found it quite a turn on and very relaxing from a stress point of view. Yet I constantly felt weird, guilty and very alone as back in 80’s and early 90’s I was finding my way in the world of work and relationships in a very male dominated career as a seafarer where men needed to be macho and quite tough.
Later, in my 40’s I developed a serious back problem and incontinence came with that. I began wetting every night and having urge / OAB issues in the day. Surgery successfully cured my physical pain and mobility issue with my spine but I’ve been left with bladder issues. As I was used to nappies, facing up to a need to be back in them wasn’t a problem and for last 20 years I’ve always worn a nappy to bed. Over the last four years in my second marriage I’ve been blessed to be with someone who understands and totally accepts my need to wear and who makes me feel more at ease with this side of me - my first wife could not handle it and ridiculed me and it was a factor that led to breakup.
Over recent years I’ve worn mainly towelling nappies to bed and have increasingly worn pull-ups or quite often a Tenaslip active fit nappy when out and about and in situations where I know I may get caught short . I’ve tried various brands of disposables but find Active Fit maxi or Ultima to be really good - effective / discreet and reliable. When away from home I use an Ultima plus a booster liner topped off with plastic pants at night.
I am definitely a diaper lover and never saw myself as AB but in last few years I’ve been through very stressful times in my personal and work life, and more and more I’ve found that wearing nappies has helped me relax. My wife doesn’t baby me, but does totally accept me lying next to her in nothing but my nappies and plastic pants, she cuddled me and playfully teases me by slipping a finger inside to play with me whether wet or dry. She always checks to nake sure I’m properly ready for bed and she says she’d grateful that because I’m nappied at night that she doesn’t get disturbed sleep from me getting up in the night. I love her for that. Right now I’ve woken up wet but needing a wee again and she’s still asleep so I feel so relaxed about it that I can just lay here and enjoy deliberately letting go in my nappy knowing that’ I’m not disturbing her.
This week we are heading off on a long drive for our holidays towing our caravan from north east to corneall. She knows that the combination of the lack of feeling / bladder awareness / urge issues I have make long distance drives uncomfortable for me as after about an hour I will go from not feeling an urge to got to suddenly being desperate and struggling to hold on. I’ve had a few accidents in my pants when out and about before - in our early days of going out I wet my pants stuck on the tube and have had very desperate sit in traffic jams or in a queue waiting to get into football, so much so that she now reads the situation and suggests I wear a pull up or a nappy. I love her for being so caring and accepting. She’s told ne this week for our long drive that she thinks I should just accept wearing a nappy all day as it means I’m more relaxed about the drive and safer especially if stuck in traffic. The beauty of caravanning is I can take supplies for the holiday easily and we have our own private space to get changed en route if needed.
All in all I’m now more relaxed at 60 about being in nappies than at any time of my life. I do sometimes dream about being in a relationship where my other half goes to that next step of changing me, babying me or being a little bit domineering to the point where I am forced to be in nappies / spanked for being naughty and having accidents etc but deep down we are both quite vanilla and I fear that to even say what I really want wouid be a step too far. I’m blessed to have a really loving wife who does accept ne as I am and I do love the times that at least I can snuggle into her in my wet nappy while we have intimate moments / foreplay etc
Your very lucky you have a wife that at least accepts you, despite not participating.