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@ItsTimmyTime , Well I didn't actually look for a guide book, but a "... for dummies" book would have been nice.ItsTimmyTime said:Unfortunately there's no guidebook and no "correct" way to do any of this stuff. It's all about a feeling unique to yourself. I understand you want to label yourself so you feel like you belong here. Based on what you've told us I'm sure many of us agree that you do belong here. If you feel you don't fit into the ABDL/IC checkboxes at the moment then maybe it's time to experiment a little.
FWIW Many of us consider our nappies to be soothing. They give us those feelings of safely that you've spoken of. Allowing ourselves that time to indulge is a method of self care and therefore it is very important we allow that time for our mental wellbeing.
Personally for me it's non sexual yet I still consider myself to be a DL. In my opinion it doesn't have to have sexual connotations linked to for you to fit into the ABDL spectrum.
I considered myself as a DL for many years and I never got the whole AB aspect of things until I came out to my wife. She began to explore those elements with me and I was shocked to learn that I do have AB tenancies....
... what I'm getting at is - if you're eager to label yourself but still believe you don't really fit, then experiment. Take things slowly. You might surprise yourself! Life is a journey of exploration after all
You mention sexual, I'm not feeling anything special when I wear, it's just underwear, but it's still embarrassing since it is s special kind of underwear. I'm confused, where does it say that AB or DL must be sexual? That's not what I can read between the lines on this forum. Sure, it seems that there are some who experience that, but that is not me. For now I just consider myself a bedwetter, but a curious one. I do sense the soothing part, but I think that is because my underwear (nappies) makes me feel safe and secure because the will protect my bed from being wet. So just practical. Do you think that I misinterpret that emotion?