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I keep going back to this thought: something as “dirty “ as anal sex is normalized, while simply wearing a diaper, not even using it, is “disgusting.” Why? It seems so arbitrary.
Exactly this.12srepaid said:I'm trying to figure out how to Express my thoughts on this. Anyway it bothers me deeply that people say that only a few groups are allowed to wear diapers. But how dare someone like an older child wear diapers for bedwetting or a disability like Autism. Or an adult that has Chrones or some other kind of disease that either causes incontinence issues, or just too weak to get to the toilet in time.
I really despise when parents treat their kids like babies just because he or she is a bedwetter and has to wear diapers.
In my mind, I dis-associate babies and diapers, even if they do wear them. Becausexanyohe that needs them should be able to wear them, and its
nobody else's business why.
winterheart01 said:Exactly this.
My mother is very angry that i prefer to wear diapers
12srepaid said:I'm trying to figure out how to Express my thoughts on this. Anyway it bothers me deeply that people say that only a few groups are allowed to wear diapers. But how dare someone like an older child wear diapers for bedwetting or a disability like Autism. Or an adult that has Chrones or some other kind of disease that either causes incontinence issues, or just too weak to get to the toilet in time.
I really despise when parents treat their kids like babies just because he or she is a bedwetter and has to wear diapers.
In my mind, I dis-associate babies and diapers, even if they do wear them. Becausexanyohe that needs them should be able to wear them, and its
nobody else's business why.
I never wanted support from her, just to leave me alone about it, but she continues to harass me and humiliate me.bambinod said:It doesn't sound like you can rely on her for support. Probably no point in fighting that, just get your support from more supportive people.
winterheart01 said:I never wanted support from her, just to leave me alone about it, but she continues to harass me and humiliate me.
aww i know the feeling. Bills I pay most as it's my house after all, she only pays 1/3 of the bills that were originally on her name.BabyTyrant said:I am in almost the same boat, except I cant really say my Mom harasses me over it and she has got past the part of trying Humiliation (I think it helps a lot in my case that I pay money towards the bills and we are either going to succeed together or fail together) so I have a pretty good idea of how you feel and I know it suck; I really feel bad for you
I do everything in my power to wear and use at my discretion and I cover up when i do wear and use; but still Diapers get brought up a lot by her for no reason
winterheart01 said:aww i know the feeling. Bills I pay most as it's my house after all, she only pays 1/3 of the bills that were originally on her name.
I gently try to nudge her towards getting used to it but she still sees me as a weirdo.
I too am discrete but she pats me to find out if I wear one or not and searches my stuff sometimes.....(privacy violated, locked chests d not help, she demands them to be opened)
yes she's an over obsessed control freak :s
the latest scold I got was "Why don't you get your diapers delivered to your doorstep???? that way everyone can see!" (which is a stpid argument since they're packed discreetly....
Ob yeah i get those comments too , after i have had a TURP or Botox in the sphincter i wear 24/7 the first week, she's constantly giving remarks i should hold it, that she can hear me crinkle (she has very good hearing due to impaired vision and inside our house there's little background noise) , she's worried people at work will notice etc...BabyTyrant said:My mom has never patted me down to see if I am wearing a diaper or went through my stuff
But she has asked me several times at random if I was (at the time) wearing a diaper and sometimes asked me "why are you walking funny" because sometimes I will be wearing a more than slightly wet diaper and dont feel like changing to a fresh one if the one I am wearing is only moderately wet, I only buy really good ABDL diapers; so I dont wanna just barely use a diaper when I do decide to diaper up.
She also feels like making it awkward when I get Diapers delivered to the house; so I try to order when I know (with almost a 100% guarantee) its gonna get delivered on Saturday
winterheart01 said:Ob yeah i get those comments too , after i have had a TURP or Botox in the sphincter i wear 24/7 the first week, she's constantly giving remarks i should hold it, that she can hear me crinkle (she has very good hearing due to impaired vision and inside our house there's little background noise) , she's worried people at work will notice etc...
She barged in while i was changing and when asked to grant me some privacy she gets mad that she seen me like that plenty when little.
Otherwise i didn't wear in house with normal clothing but i have to now
PCBaby said:once potty training begins we are taught that only babies need or wear nappies and that anything that comes out of our bodies is "dirty" or "disgusting", this indoctrination goes on until we are both dry and clean day and night and usually for some time after. Wetting or soiling yourself after this time is considered "naughty" and wrong. Of course there are some of us who because of medical or other problems have to wear nappies, but even that is somehow seen as shameful. unfortunately a lot of people don't understand the ab/dl lifestyle and think it has to do with children rather than wanting to be a child again and as such society tends to react quite badly to us. I don't this is going to change soon, I'm not sure what the law is regarding wearing nothing but a nappy and a top in public but it would certainly cause a fuss and you find yourself in front of a psychologist or psychiatrist if you were to try.