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Thought I’d post a thread that might help others on this journey of living with and managing incontinence that provides useful information from those of us more experienced with the various types of management strategies. Some might use absorbents, others might use caths, Botox, drainage bags, and a variety of other methods to manage the conditions. I’ll also share what helps me with the mental aspect and hope others will chime in with what works for them.
1. My management style: is diapers and pads. I’ve used them since I was a teen at night for bed wetting that never went away. This now works for my urge incontinence resulting from diabetes and best and helps me live a normal life that doesn’t involve side effects of prescriptions or surgery.
2. Tips/Hacks: choose the right fit, absorbency, and discreteness for your needs. A good fitting diaper that isn’t too thick yet does the job is a lifesaver. I try to be very discreet with my protection and it is always under a Garywear Active cover. I like the cover because it provides leakage protection if my bladder is more than my diaper can absorb and prevents my diaper from being visible to the public should I bend over and my shirt isn’t long enough. I alway wear a long untucked shirt with jeans to hide any telltale diaper shapes in the midsection. So far, I’ve never been discovered. Cargo shorts are my favorite in the summer. Cool and concealing but move with my protection in a comfortable discrete way.
In warm weather and when I’m working, I’ll switch over to a shaped heavy pad in compression shorts that will allow my body to breathe more knowing my urine output will be lower. Works good for a few hours or one urge release.
Keep enough supplies on hand for whatever situation you’re in. Have a spare case of diapers on hand where if you’re facing a supply shortage you can avoid running out for a month or two. I travel a lot and keep my “computer” bag with me at all times. One pocket has 4 diapers and a package of wipes in it. If I’m wet and risking a leak, I’ll duck into a hotel lobby’s bathroom and change. Most are single stalls and offer privacy and cleanliness while on the road.
Have multiple absorbencies for the days/nights events. I have 4-5 on hand for whatever I’m going to be doing.
Don’t wait too long to change. If it
leaks, I’ve lost the battle. I’ve taken a good amount of time testing and experimenting with my diapers and pads, and I know how they’ll perform and for how long they’ll last.
3. Mental health tips: don’t give incontinence any more power than the condition it is. For me, I wear a little thicker underwear than the average person (diapers) designed to compensate for my diabetic bladder. Being discreet pays dividends mentally because no one knows. Most are too busy with life to realize that I’m wearing a diaper. I’ve never been asked about it, and I lead a very active lifestyle.
Purchase supplies online. No one has to see your purchase when it shows up in an unmarked box and it stays discrete. Keeps your needs private, and for me provides peace of mind.
Develop a support system. For me, my wife is the person (outside of this group) where I can share concerns, victories, and thoughts about my condition with no judgment or negative feedback. She’s supported me on this journey in the same way I’ve supported her with her health issues. She’s encouraged me to see my doctor and she’s been helpful with behavioral changes to minimize my urgency. But accidents still happen daily and she doesn’t mind when it happens. We both know that I’ve done what I’m comfortable with to manage incontinence and that is what works for me. Keeps the head game at bay.
I manage my health decisions with information and staying informed about current treatments. I’ve told my doctors where my boundaries are and expect them to respect my decisions. I’ll fire them if they don’t. Keeps things in perspective.
Anyway, hope this helps and wish everyone the best in managing incontinence. Please feel free to add your own tips regardless of management style as it may really help the next person who might be new or looking for a solution.
1. My management style: is diapers and pads. I’ve used them since I was a teen at night for bed wetting that never went away. This now works for my urge incontinence resulting from diabetes and best and helps me live a normal life that doesn’t involve side effects of prescriptions or surgery.
2. Tips/Hacks: choose the right fit, absorbency, and discreteness for your needs. A good fitting diaper that isn’t too thick yet does the job is a lifesaver. I try to be very discreet with my protection and it is always under a Garywear Active cover. I like the cover because it provides leakage protection if my bladder is more than my diaper can absorb and prevents my diaper from being visible to the public should I bend over and my shirt isn’t long enough. I alway wear a long untucked shirt with jeans to hide any telltale diaper shapes in the midsection. So far, I’ve never been discovered. Cargo shorts are my favorite in the summer. Cool and concealing but move with my protection in a comfortable discrete way.
In warm weather and when I’m working, I’ll switch over to a shaped heavy pad in compression shorts that will allow my body to breathe more knowing my urine output will be lower. Works good for a few hours or one urge release.
Keep enough supplies on hand for whatever situation you’re in. Have a spare case of diapers on hand where if you’re facing a supply shortage you can avoid running out for a month or two. I travel a lot and keep my “computer” bag with me at all times. One pocket has 4 diapers and a package of wipes in it. If I’m wet and risking a leak, I’ll duck into a hotel lobby’s bathroom and change. Most are single stalls and offer privacy and cleanliness while on the road.
Have multiple absorbencies for the days/nights events. I have 4-5 on hand for whatever I’m going to be doing.
Don’t wait too long to change. If it
leaks, I’ve lost the battle. I’ve taken a good amount of time testing and experimenting with my diapers and pads, and I know how they’ll perform and for how long they’ll last.
3. Mental health tips: don’t give incontinence any more power than the condition it is. For me, I wear a little thicker underwear than the average person (diapers) designed to compensate for my diabetic bladder. Being discreet pays dividends mentally because no one knows. Most are too busy with life to realize that I’m wearing a diaper. I’ve never been asked about it, and I lead a very active lifestyle.
Purchase supplies online. No one has to see your purchase when it shows up in an unmarked box and it stays discrete. Keeps your needs private, and for me provides peace of mind.
Develop a support system. For me, my wife is the person (outside of this group) where I can share concerns, victories, and thoughts about my condition with no judgment or negative feedback. She’s supported me on this journey in the same way I’ve supported her with her health issues. She’s encouraged me to see my doctor and she’s been helpful with behavioral changes to minimize my urgency. But accidents still happen daily and she doesn’t mind when it happens. We both know that I’ve done what I’m comfortable with to manage incontinence and that is what works for me. Keeps the head game at bay.
I manage my health decisions with information and staying informed about current treatments. I’ve told my doctors where my boundaries are and expect them to respect my decisions. I’ll fire them if they don’t. Keeps things in perspective.
Anyway, hope this helps and wish everyone the best in managing incontinence. Please feel free to add your own tips regardless of management style as it may really help the next person who might be new or looking for a solution.