Have you ever been caught or found out?

[ChristianDiaperLover]

Here’s the question to any of you unlucky ABDL’s or DL’s. Have any of you ever been caught wearing a diaper or have had your diaper stash or even dirty diapers found by anyone? I myself have had my diaper stash found by my parents. But it actually first started when my mother found one of my wet diapers I thought threw away pretty well but apparently it was noticeable. It was super embarrassing and at first I refused to tell them why I was wearing diapers. I eventually told my mom that I had a diaper fetish. In the end I’m actually happy they know. My mother is the only one who brings it up from time to time. Glad my dad doesn’t because he’s more harder to talk to than my mom. Anyone else have the same or even feel the same as I?

 

[MissAmy]

i'm 100% sure that my parents would be supportive if they knew but i still don't want them to know for various reasons

 

[BabyTyrant]

Long story short, yes all of the above

My Mom used to try to shame me to stop

Then her approach turned to concern

Now it's not a secret, I still wear and use diapers, though I keep my stash well hidden, cover up so it's not obvious, and if I have to poop and wanna mess my Diaper I do so in another room away from any of my family members, enjoy some quality diaper time. And relax

And I have a Garbage Can just for Diapers too.

 

[Hippiediaperlover]

The first time my parents found diapers I was like 12 I think. Super embarrassing and it wasn't really ever brought up. As I got older I guess it was understood, but frowned upon.
Other than that I've never been confronted but I've seen people stare, heard people talk and definitely had people smell me in line at the checkout before.
I'm totally confident and secure wearing and using diapers so what they see doesn't bother me much. I will however, do whatever it takes to avoid a public confrontation on the subject.

 

[Trevor]

My mom found my stuff on two widely spaced occasions back when I lived at home. This was before the Internet, so she didn't have any way to easily do research. My stashes were also pretty meager and if you didn't know what you were looking at, I don't think it was entirely clear exactly what I was up to, unless it had been seen by another ABDL. On both occasions I lied forcefully and stuck to it until she was willing to accept that these things were a passing fascination and no longer of interest.

These were both traumatic conversations for both of us. After the second time, I decided I would not keep any kind of stash from there on in while living at home and I managed to stick to that. I think that even though I wasn't able to articulate what it meant to me, by that time I had a strong feeling it wasn't going away. I accepted that part but decided that I could and would restrict it to the level of fantasy from that point and I think that level of acceptance made it easier to bear without undue frustration.

I think I could explain it properly now if I had to but I have no desire to do so to my parents and I doubt they'd like to know.

 

[PaddedRebel]

Yeah, I got outed years ago. I made the mistake of wearing around family. You can imagine how that went. Long story short though, my family knows and I do wear around them occasionally, but nothing’s ever said of it and life goes on.

 

[dogboy]

I should save a copy of my reply as this topic comes up often. I was in college and came home for the weekend. We had company for dinner and when I walked into the dining room I started crying and couldn't stop as I was having a psychotic break. I excused myself and went to my bedroom which was the attic of the house as my parents lived in a cape cod house. I went back to college on Sunday but while I was gone, my mom searched the attic, probably looking for drugs. What she found was my make-shift diapers and gay porn: the double whammy.

After the long talk that I was forced to endure, my mom made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist at a big residential mental facility outside of Princeton. I had to discuss Paraphilic Infantalism, wearing diapers, etc. and being sexually attracted to other males. What a fun time that was! Eventually I talked my mom out of going because the sessions were expensive. As a side, they did electroshock therapy and lobotomies at that facility, a hell of a way to "cure" one from being gay.

 

[ThatHiddenDL]

I should save a copy of my reply as this topic comes up often. I was in college and came home for the weekend. We had company for dinner and when I walked into the dining room I started crying and couldn't stop as I was having a psychotic break. I excused myself and went to my bedroom which was the attic of the house as my parents lived in a cape cod house. I went back to college on Sunday but while I was gone, my mom searched the attic, probably looking for drugs. What she found was my make-shift diapers and gay porn: the double whammy.

After the long talk that I was forced to endure, my mom made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist at a big residential mental facility outside of Princeton. I had to discuss Paraphilic Infantalism, wearing diapers, etc. and being sexually attracted to other males. What a fun time that was! Eventually I talked my mom out of going because the sessions were expensive. As a side, they did electroshock therapy and lobotomies at that facility, a hell of a way to "cure" one from being gay.

Wow that's a lot to take in. I wish there was a more sensitive way to say that I'm sorry you had to go through all of that, but the honest truth is that nothing I can say will change what has already happened. The best thing we can rely on is that as times change then hopefully so do such reactionary methods and practices.

In my own practice all I can say is "may all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness and be free from suffering and the causes of suffering." It is the honest heartfelt wish for the future of all the world.

 

[makena43]

Hey, I see how everyone got caught wearing diapers well what about how to handle the shame and on with your lifes instead of feeling. Low. Self esteem.

 

[diaperfooties]

Well kind of but not with diapers. My olderest brother wore briefs the rest of us wore boxers well of course me wanting to regress someway (didn't cross my mind to buy diapers) I took some of his briefs I did this for a whole just everyone once and a while take one. One day he caught me and of course told our mom. Still to this day that was the worst conversation I have had I did not know what to say about it and they kept asking why question after question.

For years I kid you not years after words they would crack a joke about me taking underwear yeah it was bad I could only imagine if they had found out at that time about my abdl although I was not really doing anything that involved it.

Many of you know I told my parents not too long ago they are okay with it. I really don't think they now how deep I am into it. They have not asked any questions since which is to be expected I guess.

 

[LittleMaddox]

Hey, I see how everyone got caught wearing diapers well what about how to handle the shame and on with your lifes instead of feeling. Low. Self esteem.

You already have your own multitude of topics about that specifically

 

[makena43]

Well yeah but for the group that has been caught I bet they are sitting at their computer waiting for someone to help he/she how to I stop feeling shame right now. I want to be happy

 

[LittleMaddox]

I bet they are sitting at their computer waiting for someone to help

If you read the posts in this topic, none of these people have been caught just now. Also not all people have the same feelings of shame, etc. I for one wouldn't if I was caught

 

[makena43]

Okay what would you like. If your grandad came and found you at your computer in a diaper how would you handle the situation and. Feel not shamed. Or hummuation. And plunge

 

[LittleMaddox]

Okay what would you like. If your grandad came and found you at your computer in a diaper how would you handle the situation and. Feel not shamed. Or hummuation. And plunge

That situation wouldn't happen to me because I'd take the appropriate measures to make sure it physically could not happen. However shame and humiliation don't change anything so I wouldn't really feel those if I was found out; maybe a bit of humiliation, but for me this is really all quite hypothetical and it isn't black and white since it depends on the person found out and the person who finds them out

 

[Carnifex]

Well yeah but for the group that has been caught I bet they are sitting at their computer waiting for someone to help he/she how to I stop feeling shame right now. I want to be happy

Hopefully people will be more understanding of wearing diapers in the future and I believe that there is no reason to feel ashamed I wear openly and I wish that everyone else will be able to soon so love to everyone and stay positive and I hope everything will work out for the best but also don't worry about what others think it is not a big deal life is too short to be be worrying about others opinions so much love for everyone

 

[diaperpatrol]

definatley been caught multiple times. the first time I was ever caught was around age 12, right when I started realizing I liked to wear diapers. I was still wetting the bed at the time, so I would wear goodnites to sleep. I also remember my little brother was about 2 at the time and I would take his luvs size 3-4 with Barney on them. Well one day I got careless and all the wet goodnites and luvs were starting to pile up under my bed and when my mom went in my room to clean it she found everything. she called me in to my room to talk. I already knew what had happen. over the years she caught me multiple times. Over time she has accepted it and knows I’m still an AB and wear to this day. the other story however, isn’t as nice of an outcome. About 6 years ago I was dating this girl and we were hanging out at a friends house. We were drinking a bit too much and I started telling our mutual friend about my fetish. 2 weeks go by and me and this friend get into an argument. Needless to say she tells ALL my close friends and some I barley know. Now everyone in my town knows and has known since 2013. For the first few years it really bothered me. but over time I’ve come to realize that this is the way I am, and I won’t/shouldn’t have to change for anyone.

 

[makena43]

Okay. How would you deal with the hummuation? I would

That situation wouldn't happen to me because I'd take the appropriate measures to make sure it physically could not happen. However shame and humiliation don't change anything so I wouldn't really feel those if I was found out; maybe a bit of humiliation, but for me this is really all quite hypothetical and it isn't black and white since it depends on the person found out and the person who finds them out

How did you not feel shame? And how did you get out of humiliation and he on with your life? I agree with your last statement

 

[Bass]

Okay. How would you deal with the hummuation? I would
How did you not feel shame? And how did you get out of humiliation and he on with your life? I agree with your last statement

At the end of the day, it’s just a kink. We make a bigger deal out of it than I think we should. I mean, you ever have a ‘fetish talk’ with a group of friends? I’m not gonna go into details, but mine was the most mild!

On topic: The more I consider this topic, the more I wonder if I was ever more careless than I thought I was being. There was definitely some times where my stash got raided, someone found it, but never said anything. Or times when I was really young, and my parents started to catch on. You know, being 6-8 stealing ‘supplies’ and leaving them around for them to magically disappear one day. Or hiding your stash outside of your own bedroom.

Oh well. Sexuality and desires are weird sometimes. And I live on my own now, maintain myself, and have a decent relationship with my mom and dad. Glad they never brought it up so I can continue telling myself I hid it from them all my life

 

[dl44]

Thankfully I have not been caught... yet.

I am considering telling my mother, that way if and when she finds my (future) stash we wont have to have a talk then. I am not into diapers sexually, but I am a little and they help me regress, and if not for regressing into my little side, then just for comfort and relaxing even in my older headspace. However, although I want to because it would make confrontation much better because I initiated it, she is not the most accepting person.

I do not know how I could word this to avoid coming across as weird or creepy.

I have a small collection of inflatable toys (another community I am a part of), and like many others in the community, my mother is not exactly very accepting of that. Thankfully she never brings them up anymore, but when she first found out about them, she kept calling them blow up dolls and mocking me for having them. I have many typical pool toys, as well as inflatables tailored to the community (not common among the general public). I have 2 dragons (one anthropomorphic), a hyena, and a whole bunch of whales, dolphins, sharks, and other normal pool toys you would typically see at the beach or the pool.
My inflatables kind of mean a lot to me, as I have a sort of emotional attachment to them (I have never had much of a family, nor any friends, so I barely have anyone to talk to or to lean on when I need support, and I just sort of feel a connection with them, I really dont have anything or anyone else, and obviously my mother is not the best person to talk to). Pretty much the same way people need plush toys for support (and I have some too, just not as many as I would like lol).

She does not even seem to understand my mental illnesses. I have severe depression and anxiety, and she seems to think its just a choice, and that its just that easy to avoid them, as though depression is just being sad for a while and anxiety is just being slightly nervous. Of course she is completely wrong, they are not a choice nor easy to live with.

Long story short, I am an emotionally fragile individual. When I am not on my medication (Mary Jane), I have breakdowns and panic attacks almost every day. My inflatables and plush toys help with that, as does regressing into littlespace.

That much is what is holding me back from telling her about my little side. I think its safe to say I should not even mention being a little, nor the objects that are a part of that. When I do eventually get plenty of diapers and other little related stuff, they will be kept in a chest under lock and key.

The only thing she has been remotely accepting of is me being a part of the LGBTQ+ community. I am pansexual, and this much she is fine with.

Yeah, I kinda just rambled about my personal life a little too much. Whoops.