As I understand it, the two of you have known each other for years, at some point began an exclusive relationship, but only recently-5 months ago got married. Hopefully before, but perhaps shortly after getting married he revealed his love for wearing diapers, which suggests that he has either not worn diapers at all since knowing you, or has been hiding his diaper wearing from you, which also means he hasn't been wearing diapers all the often. Now, the big secret has been out for several months and both of you are in the acceptance/adjustment phase. You have been outstanding thus far in accepting and supporting his life style. At the same time, your husband seems to be trying to find out for himself just how deep and enduring his desire to wear and use diapers truly is. He's like a prisoner suddenly released from jail who want to explore and enjoy all the freedom he's been denying himself for so long. From all you have said I'm highly optimistic that the two of you will find the balance you are looking for. That you have tried wearing diapers yourself and found it to have some pleasant and positive aspects is extraordinarily helpful. Be patient and give the two of you the space to work this out. Communication is extremely important.