paddeddownthere
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I decided to share some brief personal thoughts on why we identify as ABDL and where it came from. I decided to write this because there are so many posts debating, is it from trauma? Is it a kink? Should I come out to friends or family? Where did this come from? These are highly debated topics. Our personal stories will cause us to form different perspectives. The below are my personal thoughts, and I am not a health professional. However, I do think some share a similar story to me.
Personally, I have experienced some trauma; an addict mother, divorced parents and a father who fled the scene. However, I don’t think trauma has anything to do with my ABDL. Fast forward to today, I am mentally healthy and physically healthy, and I have a solid social life and career. The trauma and addictive behavior really didn’t start until 9 or 10 years old. My family life was mostly normal until then. So how do you explain my attraction to diapers as early as 5 years old? I vividly remember stealing them from my babysitter when I was 7.
I personally think that some of us may have physically been taken out of diapers, but we never really left diapers. Consider this. The first thing that almost always happens after you’re born is that you are cleaned off, given to mama, and immediately wrapped in a comfy warm diaper. This is a time of your life where everything is brand new and sensory. Diapers are one of the most sensory and emotional objects in your early years as your brain is rapidly developing. In the animal world “Imprinting” is to come to recognize (another animal, person, or thing) as a parent or other object of habitual trust. Diapers are to be trusted. We always wear them. They keep us warm and comfy, and mom and dad are there to keep it that way.
Then, a cruel thing happens. The pressure mounts to potty train fast and furious. Diapers are evil, and big boys and girls don’t wear diapers. The real trauma could be potty training kids before they are physically ready in some cases, or demonizing or shaming an object (sometimes potentially in an emotionally cruel way) that has huge importance in your early life, after building that trust.
I do personally understand why some people feel less on the kink end of the spectrum and more on the identity side. I’m in the middle, however it is highly frustrating to not be able to share a huge part of your identity to a world that is not even close to ready to accept ABDLs in the world. The urge is there. This is how we feel, and some of us want to have that opportunity to tell our story for acceptance, even if that’s a dream and less of a reality. We share our lives with our social network, but this piece of me I can never talk about. For some, I imagine they view it as purely a kink, and that’s ok too.
I wanted to share this to not only share this perspective, but also to reach out to struggling ABDLs. The world overall is not going to understand. The reactions range anywhere from acceptance to disgust. However, you should really focus on self-acceptance and partner acceptance at minimum. Anything less will cause stress, and anything more is a bonus. Please don’t feel shame for something that was such a huge part of your life at birth into your early years just because it stuck with you at some level. It’s not so crazy that nature and life works that way sometimes for something that’s not harming you or others.
Personally, I have experienced some trauma; an addict mother, divorced parents and a father who fled the scene. However, I don’t think trauma has anything to do with my ABDL. Fast forward to today, I am mentally healthy and physically healthy, and I have a solid social life and career. The trauma and addictive behavior really didn’t start until 9 or 10 years old. My family life was mostly normal until then. So how do you explain my attraction to diapers as early as 5 years old? I vividly remember stealing them from my babysitter when I was 7.
I personally think that some of us may have physically been taken out of diapers, but we never really left diapers. Consider this. The first thing that almost always happens after you’re born is that you are cleaned off, given to mama, and immediately wrapped in a comfy warm diaper. This is a time of your life where everything is brand new and sensory. Diapers are one of the most sensory and emotional objects in your early years as your brain is rapidly developing. In the animal world “Imprinting” is to come to recognize (another animal, person, or thing) as a parent or other object of habitual trust. Diapers are to be trusted. We always wear them. They keep us warm and comfy, and mom and dad are there to keep it that way.
Then, a cruel thing happens. The pressure mounts to potty train fast and furious. Diapers are evil, and big boys and girls don’t wear diapers. The real trauma could be potty training kids before they are physically ready in some cases, or demonizing or shaming an object (sometimes potentially in an emotionally cruel way) that has huge importance in your early life, after building that trust.
I do personally understand why some people feel less on the kink end of the spectrum and more on the identity side. I’m in the middle, however it is highly frustrating to not be able to share a huge part of your identity to a world that is not even close to ready to accept ABDLs in the world. The urge is there. This is how we feel, and some of us want to have that opportunity to tell our story for acceptance, even if that’s a dream and less of a reality. We share our lives with our social network, but this piece of me I can never talk about. For some, I imagine they view it as purely a kink, and that’s ok too.
I wanted to share this to not only share this perspective, but also to reach out to struggling ABDLs. The world overall is not going to understand. The reactions range anywhere from acceptance to disgust. However, you should really focus on self-acceptance and partner acceptance at minimum. Anything less will cause stress, and anything more is a bonus. Please don’t feel shame for something that was such a huge part of your life at birth into your early years just because it stuck with you at some level. It’s not so crazy that nature and life works that way sometimes for something that’s not harming you or others.