NovaDL
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- Diaper Lover
I wish you the best of luck. I would do anything to be rid of this and be able to have normal relationships. I sincerely hope it works out for you.
Slomo said:The OP hasn't logged in since posting this three days ago. I wonder if he's in for a bad purge/binge cycle, or managing to not think about diapers at all.
rennecfox said:My guess is he is taking a break from this site intending not to come back and will unintentionally be back a couple of months... hopefully I'm wrong.
CrinkleMyJimmies said:I'd be interested in hearing you people's opinions on this issue...how healthy is giving up (or trying to give up, because I believe some things will be part of you always) for a significant other? Is it noble or futile?
Slomo said:Well, I joined the Marines in part to help me get over liking diapers. It did not work, and was the biggest/longest purge I went through. My later binge was as well.
And in paying attention to other's statement for decades, I've seen purging simply does not work. Not once have I heard of someone being successful in just not liking them.
This is what has lead me to the conclusion that being an abdl is an integral and compulsory part of who we are and how we think. And we all know trying to change how a person thinks (not what they believe either) is defenitely futile.
rice said:The bigger question to that I keep coming back to is "why?". I'm probably the only person here to ever ask that one, right? (sarcasm). I still wrestle w/ that question though. It seems completely illogical and strange. This is nothing new to me either, since I was a child, as young as probably 4 or 5, this has been part of me. I just don't understand WHY though. I suppose I probably never will.
rice said:The bigger question to that I keep coming back to is "why?". I'm probably the only person here to ever ask that one, right? (sarcasm). I still wrestle w/ that question though. It seems completely illogical and strange. This is nothing new to me either, since I was a child, as young as probably 4 or 5, this has been part of me. I just don't understand WHY though. I suppose I probably never will.
Starrunner said:I was looking at the OP's profile and some previous threads. These ones for example:
https://www.adisc.org/forum/showthread.php/101643-Arrrggggg-Sooo-frustrating!!!!!
https://www.adisc.org/forum/showthread.php/100808-Some-thoughts-and-questions
It appears possible that the OP is still having difficulty accepting his ABDL side, and although his spouse is struggling with it, she appears to have been trying to compromise with the OP. I'm wondering if he is forcing himself into believing that she is not accepting of his diapers so he will have the motivation to give them up.
Isle said:It is an issue of control on her part. Sometimes a person cannot understand this without some skilled help. What would she have to feel if she let go of control of this? Feelings can be hard and feeling helpless can be the hardest. It's emotional baggage on her part that she cannot compromise here. If you agreed to do your diapering in private, what can the objection be?
If you can get her to see a therapist about this, the solution is simple but clearly will be hard for her. In the end though, she will feel much better herself and will have rid herself of baggage. And you will have your self-respect.
It appears possible that the OP is still having difficulty accepting his ABDL side, and although his spouse is struggling with it, she appears to have been trying to compromise with the OP. I'm wondering if he is forcing himself into believing that she is not accepting of his diapers so he will have the motivation to give them up.
rennecfox said:The person has left at this point and hasn't been back so you won't be getting an answer on that unless something changes.
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