Don't seek someone out on the premise that they're going to
need you. I do understand the feeling of wanting to "save" someone, and make everything better: but if you're looking for a girl who specifically has a medical problem (which is what it sounds like), why? A relationship built upon such a hollow foundation will fall to pieces before you can bat an eye. The closest you'll get to this is dating a little; As I mentioned in my previous post, head to tumblr. That's where all of them are. Just be warned, focusing on that too intensely brings the risk of overshadowing romantic love in favor of a caretaker setup, so if you happen to fall hard for this person and want something more serious and mature someday, you may run into trouble.
Now, obviously, I'm here, so I
had interests of my own; I'm not criticizing the interest or personal practice of this sort of thing in any way. It's possible to be in a relationship with someone who is into this stuff, and there is
nothing at all wrong with liking whatever you want to like, for either of you. Just don't go into it with such a heavy focus on just
that. You should be on equal terms with your partner. I've been there and done that, and have been away from it for many months now, so I speak from experience. This is why I feel that "Parent-style" (a daddy, etc)/Caretaker/ LG style relationships are generally either 1) heavily perverse, or 2) unhealthy. If I had a second shot, I couldn't do it again. I'm just saying, you know. You want a relationship? Find someone who connects with you on a personal level, with similar interests and beliefs, who will work with you to be your supportive (but not
supporting) equal, on more than such a narrow qualification. Don't look for someone who will obstinately refuse that; for if that's the case, they may be wonderful people, but they aren't ready for a relationship in the first place.
[many places are]... full of people looking for someone to fill a role in their fantasy, and they are mostly avoided because most people don't want to be an object (well ok, in some fetishes they do, but not like that..) in a one way relationship.
I dont have much to respond with to this, I'm just quoting it because I just... agree with it so much. Thats why I'm so riled up over the subject. You focus too much on being "caretaker" or whathaveyou, you become
too much that,
too little a romantic partner, and it twists into a situation of it being the
only feasible way to make your partner truly happy. If the person in question could reply to this post, she'd object heavily to what I'm saying; the running premise was that I should "want to do it, not have to be asked", but... the problem is, I
did want to make her happy. That was the reasoning; I didn't get enjoyment out of the act
alone, I wanted to make her feel loved. In the end, it wasn't healthy for either of us, and I ended up tripping all over myself when faced with the intense responsibility that comes with being a "caretaker". She can continue to be little at heart, and do all of the things that she's always done on her own, but I hope that she's moved beyond the need for someone else to support that now, to become a strong and confident person who doesn't need a "caretaker" anymore. I don't mean to cut this person down, though. They were one of my dearest friends for many years. All that I'm trying to say, really, is that the concept itself is not good.
TL;DR: Don't do it. Just go find somebody that makes you happy, don't narrow it down to something so oddly specific like that.