NMDL said:
Hi. I'm a father on two ( 7 & 3). My wife in supportive, but wants to make sure our children don't find out. I only wear once they go to bed, but my young ones come in sometimes if they've had a bad dream or...
I'm also concerned about how to hide it as the get older.
Well, as a father of three and my youngest now old enough to be driving a car, I have been through all of this and continue to do so. I think that gives me at least some experience in this matter.
For me, I ordered a 5F743DYPR safe that is hidden behind a false front bookshelf that when you press on the hidden button at the top of the bookcase it slides open, revealing the safe behind. It is then secured with a biometric scanner that scans my retina and fingerprints both, then activated with a voice recognition and secret code word. Just to be safe, I placed an internal combustion device that if the incorrect password is stated more than twice it will incinerate the contents inside, rendering no possible recognition of its contents.
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Of course I am joking about the safe and all of this. But the question that you shared is actually not a joking matter... It is something that I personally have been very careful about and both have a locking bedroom as well as keep my diapers and little things very much secured away from both little and older prying eyes.
While I cannot be 100% certain that my children have never found these things nor know of my ABDL interests, it has not been something that has come up or has been of a concern. I also do wear diapers occasionally under my clothes discreetly around the house, at work, and in public. And never have I gotten so much as a second look that I have seen. I usually wear a shirt that is of crinkly type fabric that helps mask the sound and while I don't go to lengths on end to disguise it, I am cognizant of what I wear and careful not to wear clothes that would be revealing of my diaper underneath.
For me, my wearing of diapers and being ABDL is not something that I feel I should share with my children. If, despite my precautions, this was discovered and I was approached about it. I would be honest about it.
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Having shared this, I have also experienced something very unique and not probably very common. At least I haven;t heard of others who have had this happen.
A few years back, I found evidence that led me to suppose that my youngest son may also have had an interest in diapers. I found this "evidence" in the trash in the form of used training pull ups in the trash (and they weren't mine). I also found on the internet history some searches and sites that had been visited to this nature that were not something I had visited. Hence, it was obvious there was some exploring going on.
I pondered about this quite a bit and eventually approached my son about what I had found. This was done in kind of a special setting, out in the fields and in a neutral setting. While at first he just kind of kept his head held low, as I shared with him that I knew that others also had this interest and it was not something that made him weird or so different, and also that I loved him, he acknowledged this with me. I did not tell him that I shared in this interest. I thought quite a bit about that beforehand and also have done so since that time. And I believe that while there may have been some benefit to him knowing that his dad also had this interest, I felt strongly that it was not appropriate for me to share that with him at that time. Rather, I expressed my love for him and told him that I understood why he had these feelings and let him kind of lead the way in what he was willing to share. He didn't share a lot, but as we talked I felt him open up and when we were finished, I let him know that if he ever needed to talk about it, that I was there.
Since that time, and a few years have now passed, there hasn't been much more conversation about this, other than upon a couple of occasions he has in passing made a very slight comment that he is not having any troubles or concerns with this.
I cannot say for certain, but based on the relationship that I have with my son now, I believe this was the right thing to do. I wish I could have actually had this kind of conversation with my own parents when I was younger, as I thought I was the only one and just some sort of freak. If someone had just talked with me then and let me know that others had this interest and it didn't make me a bad person... well.. that would have been a good thing.
NMDL said:
Also, I have another question (sorry to unload). My wife has mild urinary incontinence as a result of having to have a hysterectomy at the age of 30. When she has to wear a heavy pad it kinda gets me excited. I feel really guilty about this. It is horribly inconvenient for her and I don't like feeling excited by her inconvenience. She is very supportive and has helped me more than I can say.
Sorry to ramble. Any suggestions would be very welcome. Thank you!
So, your wife is your wife and as such I would hope that you might have a relationship where lots of things about her get you excited. Having some sort of arousal or interest in her wearing incontinence products that is related to your own feelings of wanting to wear is not something I think is a bad thing or something you should be ashamed of. You are indeed fortunate that she is supportive of you in your ABDL interests. Perhaps this might be something that you might find a way to be something to build in your relationship as you share intimate things about yourself and she with you. But I certainly wouldn't force or pressure the issue. It is entirely possible that if she has mild urinary incontinence that she could be uncomfortable with the thought of this being something to be excited about. Go with your instincts and be cognizant of what her needs are.
In any case, I wish you the best of luck in this. As for my own relationship with my spouse, there is much deeper stories to be shared, but it is not a relationship that has worked out, diapers and other ABDL things aside, and has been a very painful experience for me.
But... back to your questions...
I wish you the most of happiness in what you do. Don't stress about whether your children will find out. You don't need to purchase the model 5F743DYPR safe that I spoke of. I think there are other ways to handle this where you can be successful in not having your children know of your ABDL interests, but also being prepared if it might come out.
Thank you for your post and sharing of your concerns. You are not the only one who has experienced these questions and you are not alone. I admire you for thinking of these things and also the concern about your family. I sincerely wish you the best with this.
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