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  1. #1
    YoungPixel

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    Hello there!
    I have a really good friend, we know each other for a lot of time, and we have gained a lot of confidence, I can simply talk about anything with her.
    But, you know, ABDL is another thing, it's like our deepest secret, we almost cannot tell it to anyone.
    One day I was at her home and she had to go to the supermarket to buy a couple of things, so I went with her. One of the things that she had to buy was toothpaste, nothing special huh.
    Then she turned around, and diapers were on the same aisle as toothpaste and those things (hygienic things). She stared at the Goodnites package (8-15) and she said "I find it shameful that a child of that age have to wear...", she didn't tell that to me directly, she just commented it. I didn't say nothing and we continued shopping.

    Her reaction surprised me, as I said we can talk about anything and in my point of view she is pretty open-minded. I wondered a few times of telling her about my fetish in a near future (I thought it before this happened), but now I don't think I would do it. Maybe she find weird the GN package? I mean, it's very rare that a boy or a girl is happy wearing bed-wetting diapers (referring to the Goodnites package design).

    What do you think about this?
    Hope you can help me, we are really good friends (I'd say best friends) and I wouldn't like to break our relationship if something goes wrong with this, I would love to hear your opinion :3

    Cheers!

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    Bring it up when you are together shopping again, maybe alone together in the car.

    Say, "hey, remember when we were at the store recently, I remember you commenting about those pullups for older kids who wet the bed."

    allow time for her response. (she will brobably say, ...yeah...)

    Then, "Well, I didn't want to mention it, but it kinda struck a nerve because, well, 'cause, uh....I have worn them... when I was younger... or have issues."
    .
    She will probably laugh. (ha ha, (smile), ha ha) , .........But then will probably be sorry for you.....(awwww)
    Shrug, smile, or just take it in stride. (How you react here is important)

    You have to decide where you want to take it from there.

    You could say any of the following:

    hey, I'm not perfect, or

    it happens occasionally, deal with it. or

    Hey, I saw a commerical on TV about Underwearness and its no big deal
    Pull ups underwear, that's funny... (or I'm gonna try that)

    ...
    Good luck.

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    It could have just been a knee-jerk reaction on her part, but you know her better than we do. I'd err on the side of caution though saying it, but she could think differently about it when it's concerning you. I finally told a group of friends once out camping and I was heavily drinking and they were fairly receptive at least to the fetish (Oh I've heard of that etc...) but I didn't tell them I actually wear them. Go with your gut, but don't let the excitement of telling her get to you.

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    People can be finicky when it comes to their opinions.

    For instance, I was washing my car this afternoon and a guy pulled up to my curb in his T-top Cutlass, heavily blowing out his blunt smoke. It had all the trimmings that made it obviously a G-Ride- Dayton wires, exhaust, lowered on hydraulics. (lots of $$ into this car!) He jumped out for a sec, did something (not sure what), then got back in and drove away. I was thinking to myself - You're a black guy, in a loud, stereotypical car, smoking marijuana while you're driving, and if/when you get popped for a DUI, you're gonna blame the cop and claim that he's a racist and you're being persecuted because you're black. Given the current state of race relations in America, it's a pretty dumb move to be black and intentionally and so flagrantly breaking the law. I thought all this as I'm listening to some Westcoast gangsta rap (MC Eiht is one of my favorites), and remembered that that exact situation is something he does regularly. (Guy's almost 50, still alive, and active in his neighborhood Crip gang, in addition to being an "OG"/niche rapper.) So while I don't consciously condone the activity, and would love to have questioned that individual as to his rationale - "Why do you think this is OK to do?" , I would wholly make an exception, if that individual were in fact, my favorite rapper. So, for your situation, your friend may actually think it's shameful that older children do not have nighttime bladder control, but, for YOU, because she is your friend, and it's YOU, she might make an exception and be OK with what you're into.

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    When she said "shameful" it implies that she thinks it's a failing somewhere. Which is fair because a lot of people think that when it comes to potty training and bedwetting. Many, many people assume that how well a kid does at using the bathroom is either a direct result of how the parents handled it or something having to do with the child's personality and decision-making. And, I mean, it might be shameful for an older kid to be wetting the bed if any of that were true. It's not though. In reality, almost all cases of bedwetting aren't something under the control of either parents or child, and it's not easily prevented short of growing out of it.

    So, my guess is that if she were more educated about it, she might change her opinion. And, at any rate, she likely wouldn't see your choice to wear diapers in the same way as she sees it for older children that need them, though she might still think wetting yourself is icky, as most people have that opinion.

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    Is it not possible that she meant it as, "it's a shame" as in, its sad that a child that old is still having problems?

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    I think there are some questions that are important. First, do you have a need to wear diapers. If so I would follow LittleICme's advice, except tell her that you have a current need. If you only wear because you enjoy the feeling (I know I do), you should be asking yourself why do you want to tell her. If you are in an intimate relationship with her and you want her to share in your kink then go ahead and tell her. Be straight forward and honest about it and don't tell any half truths. Tell her it's something that you enjoy, and ask her what her thoughts are about it. And yes there is a risk to the relationship, but life is full of risks. Good luck to you.

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    I was wondering if she thought it was sad that the child had to suffer from the problems of being incontinent. Often for kids it means no sleeping over with friends, or going camping with friends or scouts, that sort of thing. The time to have asked her was then. I do understand your hesitation to tell her about yourself however, and I think you do need to find out more either by what she meant, or how liberal her opinions are in general before you would reveal something so personal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Technologic View Post
    Is it not possible that she meant it as, "it's a shame" as in, its sad that a child that old is still having problems?


    Quote Originally Posted by dogboy View Post
    I was wondering if she thought it was sad that the child had to suffer from the problems of being incontinent.
    I'm thinking along this line of reasoning as well. She may be implying that it is a shame that a child would have a problem and need diapers. Sort of like it's a shame someone has cancer or the flu.

    Maybe the next time you are out shopping with her and near the diaper aisle, see if you can get her to clarify her position. Then determine your next move.

  10. #10
    YoungPixel

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    First of all, thanks you all for your responses



    Quote Originally Posted by ORBaby View Post
    First, do you have a need to wear diapers.
    Nope, I just wear when I want to.



    Quote Originally Posted by ORBaby View Post
    you should be asking yourself why do you want to tell her.
    I wanted to tell her about my kink because she is special to me, and we can trust each other. Maybe she even likes it without knowing it if she is willing to try.
    As of now we are only friends, but who knows, maybe in a future that changes :P (In a good way haha).
    So, maybe I am rushing into this and I should wait until we are more than what we are now or something like that.

    What would you do?
    Regards!
    I wanted to tell her about my kink because she is special to me, and we can trust each other.
    As of now we are only friends, but who knows, maybe in a future that changes :P (In a good way haha).
    So, maybe I am rushing into this and I should wait until we are more than friends or something like that.

    What would you do?
    Regards!

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