meowmind
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Hello everyone!
I wanted to make a post here are get peoples thoughts on this, and share my experiences. And also kinda vent a little bit cause I am a little frustrated with this right now.
I have had an oddly difficult time meeting friends in the ABDL community. Most of my interactions have been with people I have met on reddit, mainly cause personal ad's are not a thing here. I have looked around on fetlife as well, but not really digging the vibe in most posts, and have also got some rather mixed (and super creepy) responses when trying to talk to people there.
For me, I am just trying to meet more friends, not hook up with someone. Friends are more important than a possibly short lived relationship or a quick hook up.
80 to 90% of the time one of either three things happens:
1. Someone only wants to talk about diapers, and is uninterested about talking about other topics.
2. The people that respond to me want to role play and then ghost me, or want to talk about things sexual in nature right away.
3. I will start having good wholesome conversations with people, then I get ghosted out of nowhere.
#3 really gets to me. I have met some really awesome people who share so many things in common with me, and just when I think I have made a friend... silence. Sometimes I find that I am the one asking nearly all the questions, and most people never bother to ask me much... maybe this should be a bigger flag in my book...
I always try to make a very high effort to be courteous with people I am talking with, and tend not to bring up ABDL related topics very much unless we are both comfortable with talking about it. Also, I try to be considerate of their time, and not bombard people with a ton of messages throughout the day, after all most people have lives outside of this community as well.
I have seen so many bad examples in the abdl community when it comes to talking to others, I try to keep my own standards high.
Even tho I live in what seems to be one of the biggest states for the ABDL community at the moment (Colorado), I live 2 hours away from nearly all the IRL events. The one event I went to (one of the nerd nights at ABDLr), was a fairly neutral experience for me. Nearly everyone there was already in their cliques, and it felt incredibly awkward to break their conversations to introduce myself. Eventually one kind soul noticed the lost looking intervert, and invited me to color with them.
I am no social butterfly but I try to make a good effort, but it all feels so hopeless everytime I try.
So what are your experiences with this? Anyone have some good suggestions?
Thanks!!
I wanted to make a post here are get peoples thoughts on this, and share my experiences. And also kinda vent a little bit cause I am a little frustrated with this right now.
I have had an oddly difficult time meeting friends in the ABDL community. Most of my interactions have been with people I have met on reddit, mainly cause personal ad's are not a thing here. I have looked around on fetlife as well, but not really digging the vibe in most posts, and have also got some rather mixed (and super creepy) responses when trying to talk to people there.
For me, I am just trying to meet more friends, not hook up with someone. Friends are more important than a possibly short lived relationship or a quick hook up.
80 to 90% of the time one of either three things happens:
1. Someone only wants to talk about diapers, and is uninterested about talking about other topics.
2. The people that respond to me want to role play and then ghost me, or want to talk about things sexual in nature right away.
3. I will start having good wholesome conversations with people, then I get ghosted out of nowhere.
#3 really gets to me. I have met some really awesome people who share so many things in common with me, and just when I think I have made a friend... silence. Sometimes I find that I am the one asking nearly all the questions, and most people never bother to ask me much... maybe this should be a bigger flag in my book...
I always try to make a very high effort to be courteous with people I am talking with, and tend not to bring up ABDL related topics very much unless we are both comfortable with talking about it. Also, I try to be considerate of their time, and not bombard people with a ton of messages throughout the day, after all most people have lives outside of this community as well.
I have seen so many bad examples in the abdl community when it comes to talking to others, I try to keep my own standards high.
Even tho I live in what seems to be one of the biggest states for the ABDL community at the moment (Colorado), I live 2 hours away from nearly all the IRL events. The one event I went to (one of the nerd nights at ABDLr), was a fairly neutral experience for me. Nearly everyone there was already in their cliques, and it felt incredibly awkward to break their conversations to introduce myself. Eventually one kind soul noticed the lost looking intervert, and invited me to color with them.
I am no social butterfly but I try to make a good effort, but it all feels so hopeless everytime I try.
So what are your experiences with this? Anyone have some good suggestions?
Thanks!!