Hello,
Firstly everyone has problems with getting shoes that fit, even ladies themselves as manufacturers differ.
From a crossdresser perspective, I find that my ladies shoes fit perfectly fine using my own male size, UK11.
I’m unsure whether you are looking at your first pair so I’d recommend you try some ballet flats. They’re relatively inexpensive and available in larger sizes and probably more so in your size 9. Also as I’m pretty sure like me, you’re not going to walk into a high street shop to try them, use Amazon, especially prime which invariably is next day delivery and easily returnable.
I have amassed a good collection of ladies and girls shoes to suit my dressing needs, probably around 16 pairs in different styles and heels.
It is important to remember though, even with your ladies clothes and underwear, you will probably end up with things that you don’t like or are just not quite right. At the end of the day it is somewhat trial and error.
I hope that helps and good luck, let’s us know how you get on.
Here’s some of mine.
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Jenny x