mickdl
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Hi Ellyn,
People can be just plain evil sometimes. I think it's just important to understand that it has nothing to do with yourself, it's their problem. Unfortunately, this is not always easy - because some people are just experts in giving you a bad feeling and spreading self-doubt. Maybe it is a prejudice - but I think women can be much meaner among themselves.
My experience is, that it get easier if you have a community and friends who are behind you and to have a task from which you get self-affirmation. Especially the last was very important for me. A long time ago I had just the wrong job and for me nothing is worse then doing things that I don‘t like just for the money. Luckily I was able to change this and that teaches me to know who I am, what I can do and to know that I‘m pretty good in the things that I‘m doing.
At the end it a question of the mindset. I‘m not sure. - but my feeling is, that this is often much harder for women then for men to develop such a self-confindence because traditional gender roles conflicting this. Men have other problems here - like „Heros were no diapers“ but this is a different story…
People can be just plain evil sometimes. I think it's just important to understand that it has nothing to do with yourself, it's their problem. Unfortunately, this is not always easy - because some people are just experts in giving you a bad feeling and spreading self-doubt. Maybe it is a prejudice - but I think women can be much meaner among themselves.
My experience is, that it get easier if you have a community and friends who are behind you and to have a task from which you get self-affirmation. Especially the last was very important for me. A long time ago I had just the wrong job and for me nothing is worse then doing things that I don‘t like just for the money. Luckily I was able to change this and that teaches me to know who I am, what I can do and to know that I‘m pretty good in the things that I‘m doing.
At the end it a question of the mindset. I‘m not sure. - but my feeling is, that this is often much harder for women then for men to develop such a self-confindence because traditional gender roles conflicting this. Men have other problems here - like „Heros were no diapers“ but this is a different story…