Ellyn
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This topic has likely been touched on before but I thought I’d chat about it for a minute.
I’m likely one of the minorities here being female, though I hope not. Just generally speaking, women are probably less confident than their male counterparts in many aspects of life, one being appearance. I believe that fellow women are often responsible for much of appearance sensitivity issues, which is a shame. I feel I am often criticized by my sisters out there with regards to my short height, wide hips, big boobs, you name it, like tearing others apart somehow builds them up. I’m particularly sensitive about my walk, usually because of the fullness of my butt, bulge in front, and bulk between my legs. My butt is actually very slender but when I put two ‘thinner’ cloth prefold diapers on, they round it out quite a bit, to what I consider a ‘normal’ size. With that, the diaper bulge in front is a byproduct, which I’m always cognizant about. The appropriate control brief or body briefer is VERY important to minimize the effects of wearing double diapers all day. What’s more important though is the fullness between my legs that effect to some degree my walk. With that, I’m very fortunate to have very slender thighs coupled with my wide hips results in a wider space between my legs for the diaper bulk to occupy. Still, I’m always aware about my walk, in particular my sway. I think that men think my butt and skirt sway is sexy (I hope) but women can tear you apart with a disapproving glance. Case and point, I was at a mall a few years ago doing a little lunch time shopping and needed to change. I was wearing cloth that day so as I was changing, two women came in the restroom talking about that slut in the black dress…. As they talked on, I realized they were talking about me! They were tearing me apart about my walk…. saying I must be wearing a diaper...!! They also remarked about my big boobs, saying they can’t be real. I guess that they didn’t realize I was feet away from them, hearing every hurtful word that made me tear up, but i maintained my composure somehow. Well, as you can imagine, that destroyed my self confidence, and continues to haunt me to this day. Being incontinent is hard enough so when you have to be aware of every move you make, trying to be inconspicuous about your diaper, it can lead to a very stressful day. I find myself wearing lower cut necklines that expose a little cleavage to distract from my diaper area. If I’m going to be body shamed, I’d much rather have it be about my big boobs and not speculation about being diapered.
With that, I try to never criticize anyone in any way. Obviously words can cut, but a disapproving expression is often worse.
I’m likely one of the minorities here being female, though I hope not. Just generally speaking, women are probably less confident than their male counterparts in many aspects of life, one being appearance. I believe that fellow women are often responsible for much of appearance sensitivity issues, which is a shame. I feel I am often criticized by my sisters out there with regards to my short height, wide hips, big boobs, you name it, like tearing others apart somehow builds them up. I’m particularly sensitive about my walk, usually because of the fullness of my butt, bulge in front, and bulk between my legs. My butt is actually very slender but when I put two ‘thinner’ cloth prefold diapers on, they round it out quite a bit, to what I consider a ‘normal’ size. With that, the diaper bulge in front is a byproduct, which I’m always cognizant about. The appropriate control brief or body briefer is VERY important to minimize the effects of wearing double diapers all day. What’s more important though is the fullness between my legs that effect to some degree my walk. With that, I’m very fortunate to have very slender thighs coupled with my wide hips results in a wider space between my legs for the diaper bulk to occupy. Still, I’m always aware about my walk, in particular my sway. I think that men think my butt and skirt sway is sexy (I hope) but women can tear you apart with a disapproving glance. Case and point, I was at a mall a few years ago doing a little lunch time shopping and needed to change. I was wearing cloth that day so as I was changing, two women came in the restroom talking about that slut in the black dress…. As they talked on, I realized they were talking about me! They were tearing me apart about my walk…. saying I must be wearing a diaper...!! They also remarked about my big boobs, saying they can’t be real. I guess that they didn’t realize I was feet away from them, hearing every hurtful word that made me tear up, but i maintained my composure somehow. Well, as you can imagine, that destroyed my self confidence, and continues to haunt me to this day. Being incontinent is hard enough so when you have to be aware of every move you make, trying to be inconspicuous about your diaper, it can lead to a very stressful day. I find myself wearing lower cut necklines that expose a little cleavage to distract from my diaper area. If I’m going to be body shamed, I’d much rather have it be about my big boobs and not speculation about being diapered.
With that, I try to never criticize anyone in any way. Obviously words can cut, but a disapproving expression is often worse.