I can only share from my experience. My wife accept s my little side to a degree. She also knows I have a feminine side. We did this like 3-5 years ago. It was fun at the time but it had more negatives than positives.
I told my wife I kind of had a bi side but this open marriage was only possible if I did stuff with another male. I was actually okay with that. My wife would have been too jealous if I did things with other girls ( even though she did things with guys/it's what we both wanted. I'm kind of a sissy she isn't in to what I'm into as much as I am)
- It was definitely more fun on paper/fantasy than reality.
- It worked at that specific time of our lives. Now it wouldn't work for us.
- The risk or STDs and pregnancy are real with these kind of things.And some women don't like using protection because it's not as good.
- Some guys put no effort into this. Some guys were not that good at intimacy and sometimes they were too good.
- Sometimes it felt like real relationships. Sometimes they felt like they were in love. Or they get mad when your doing things with other guys.
- Some guys lie on FetLife and say their single when in fact they have a spouse who doesn't know. A lady just a week ago asked my wife if she did things with him years ago. She now is married to him and has kids with him and told my wife that she said she never married him. She wasn't mad at my wife but this is the kinda of things that happen.
- I had weird experiences too. People lying about their age and using different photos.
- One time my wife told me that the one guy gave her a kiss on the lips goodbye. It was just odd. I didn't care too much.
These things do happen as it's important to stay open and honest. I told my wife I wasn't going to get jealous but I did and it was just because he was just talking with her kind of like a spouse would. I wasn't jealous of the intimacy parts but when they were just texting after and such. That's my experiences. If you have any questions just let .e know.
It was fun for me but my wife got stressed out. I personally would keep doing it but it's different saying that as the guy. It also right now In our lives wouldn't work for us now. But I'm glad we at least tried. It's like drinking. It creates some fun times but the consequences are there too.