MissMummyUK said:
I've just been asked by someone if I would take him in a pram to the park.
Of course my reply was no.
No way.
I wouldn't do anything that exposes the general public to adult babies, especially children. The park is a place for children. Attending a park and exposing children to ABDL is not acceptable behaviour, and I am not sure in the UK, but in other countries would be a reason for arrest.
Have you ever done or wanted to do something like that?
What are your boundaries as an AB?
This is a very interesting topic to me, so I must hesitate not to type a complete essay on the importance of what you just said. But first I must address, that I am PROUD of you for not falling into the fantasy at other peoples demise. This is a critical step in being a caretaker, and otherwise, overall being respectful while doing littlespace activities. Many of us do want that white picket fence, but we do not understand if we were to do it, that it can be dangerous, indecent, or even, illegal. For you to place your boundries and in the real scope of things was realistic, yet firm, and not giving false promise to a little.
Giving false promise to someone in littlespace, is just as damaging to them in their journey, as they seek out what is possible and not possible, and some flying to close to the sun. (I used to be this way, and it was not until I really came to build myself that I realized that my line of work would not work with the lifestyle as I thought, and doing anything extreme in public will become dangerous to others, and for what, my own thrill? Just for a fun laugh? I feel you need to sit back and really take in that you had that moment, and really appreciate that you had the bravery to stay in touch without going out of bounds, even though the thrill of doing such could be exciting. You kept others in mind, not just yourself or your little. This is NOT a small deal. Yes, many of us want to help our little and give them the best time, but to consider others is selfless, and in the end builds the little that even when in headspace, that they consider being kind to others (Which is very hard to do something when the brain is empty and your drooling all over your shirt!)
My boundries as an A.B is that I test the waters and NEVER do any baby activities (I am a switch) in front of any strangers. I also do not accept, consider, or even reveal any need for a diaper change to strangers. (Meaning that if I am in an arcade, I have trained not to wet in there in public, even if I have the need to) I have stress based incontinence, so I understand that when I am stressed out that I am to go to the bathroom stall and be left alone to breathe so I do not make it known that I might need a diaper change if I get to overwealmed. I will not allow people in my room that I do not know, or on my computer (due to the stuffed animals and the ABDL research, respectively) I will also, because I tend to get VERY little to the point of nonverbal, establish methods of communication before slipping in headspace if I am trustworthy, and no matter how far I go, keep a toe in reality so that in the event of an emergency, I could snap out of it. (Last time I did not do this, I slipped "out of control" and the results were terrifying. I would certainly say "There is always the A before the B" Finally, if work or other responsibilities come first, they take FULL precedence. I will not slip without having some serious back up plans in mind.
If your little is to ask again, you can make the answer fun, and making it a cute lesson depending on the little age. Going around showing kindness to others NOT as a little can be a good way to do this, and giving the little a reward for being kind to others, or to read them a story about being kind to others and considerate may be a good way to impliment this while still keeping them in headspace.
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