Clarity said:
People need to stop comparing adult babies and diaper lovers to gay rights. There is absolutely no correlation. Some people need to face that AB/DL will never be fully accepted by the public. What is wrong with keeping your fetish to yourself? Why do random people on the street need to know about you being an adult baby? The answer is nobody does.
A few things I'd like to say. In order for us to keep our fetish to ourselves,
it must first be a fetish, and for some, guess what.
It's not! I wish people would see that there's more than one form.
That being said, I'd be in quite a pickle without a few fetisist friends. A lot of emotional work gets done for when I get the chance to stop pushing my Little side down, and without a fetish checklist, I wouldn't know what wasn't okay with me, and could be easily hurt. I'm glad there's enough alike about us that we can share information and support.
You know, up until fairly recently, transgender (a matter of identity and at the core of one's being) was seen as no different than a man getting his kicks out of dressing in women's clothes. Same for women in men's clothes. The difference between gender and sexuality wasn't understood either. The understanding has shifted now, but only because enough people supported each other, alike or different, and spoke up for the world to recognize the difference.
No one is saying that the rights of the transgendered and gay communities, respectively, are the same, but I'll tell you this, being AB sure has helped me understand a family member's male-to-female girlfriend better, because both the girlfriend and I know what it's like to have to push part of ourselves down to please folks. Her mom's gotta die before she gets her surgery. Lucky for me, I'm gender secure.
I'm lucky enough to have a mom who's truly and authentically weird. I'm wearing my footies now, and she doesn't mind. She has an Eeore pair of her own, but diapers, bottles,
aci:s, nope. Gotta wait 'til I move. Lest ye think it's genetic, no, she's not AB, and I'm adopted.:lol: I do have IC issues, but not bad enough to warrant full paddedness.
I've said before that most ABDLs tend to do the bare minimum required to be okay in our own skin. I'm not overt. My bare minimum is, "Hello, small comfort item. Meet shirt pocket. I'll be reaching for you though him if I need you." Maybe I'll wear the Eeore or Kermit shirts I got at Walmart, and keep my lovey in a pant or skirt pocket.
Also, if one can't tell what he or she is looking at, he or she shouldn't judge it harshly. Maybe the person out in public with a snap-shoulder shirt has an inter veinous port near the collar bone, and the snaps are for easy access. I do hope that person is wearing pants, or a skirt though, that's decency. Wanna poo? Having a bad muscle day and can't help it? Fine! Take an internal deodorant tablet and keep it up 'till it kicks in! Nobody else wants to smell you! Need to change position to go? Make funny noises or faces when you do? Fine! Create a safe zone by attaching a pop up changing room to the back of your vehicle. No one wants to know you're going on yourself!