Coucou!!! (in French it mean "hey you", isn't that cute?
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I don't know about others but I can tell you my experience.
I've been going to a psychologist for the pass year. the first 3 months I went with one to work some issues specially ADHD but I didn't feel comfortable with her so i didn't come clean about diapers. Even though from day one I didn't feel comfortable, I kept going because I didn't got the guts to tell her I was quiting her, I was kinda ashamed so I just kept on going and yes, ofcourse, she helped me with some areas such as organization and to try to finish what I started which is hard for me to do lol.
Anyways,
Then I decided to change the psychologist and try another one and this time I said to myself "let's try this one and if it doesn't feel right, just change it again.... Though I DID like her (another woman) So I kept her going and in about my third session, I encourage myself and decided to talk to her about my abdl side.
How I started my conversation?
Well right away when we salute each other, I say "I'm feeling well and motivated to talk" and right away when we sat down, I started by " ok so I would like to talk about something very important and intimate for me and is probably the most important secret that i have in my life. If you have heard about it before, good for me but if not, I hope you are open minded..... Here I go"
" since I've been a young child around 5 or 6 years old, I've been have this kind of strange attraction.................."
And I kept going by telling her the story of my life diaper/baby related.
And when I was done, I felt so so so good, like a big weight has been lifted from me. She was very professional and the first thing she said was that I was very brave what I just did, that not everyone would do it so once again I was brave and that I should be proud of who i am and feel good and trust in myself more.
She understood that it was a part of me and that I wasn't looking to quite but to learn to accept it and accept myself.
So I'm in my 6th session and we have been working mainly on my self-esteem, and self-acceptance. she doesn't really ask much about diapers really, she was asking more questions related my childhood, how school was, my family etc.
So yeah, I've been feeling more confident and confortable since then.
Here goes some tips from me :
1.When choosing your therapist, the first session should be more like a "job interview" kinda like, where YOU are the one hiring your therapist. I don't mean you are gonna ask him/her questions but juste make sure, you feel confortable with that person, if not, just change it!! Don't worry about what they may say if you don't stay with them cause its part of the first session.
2. Remember that they are professionals and that they daily deal with way way more strange things than just wanting to wear diapers.... So relax
(plus, you are paying them to help you not to judge you)
3. Before going, read all the articles here in ADISC about understanding infantilism, why wearing diapers, etc. The articles are GREAT!
4. If you are not good at improvising or to talk fluidly or to organize your ideas while talking (like me) just write down what you want to say.
Therapies are expensive, yes, but if you can afford it or someone else is paying it for you it, GO FOR IT.
Plus you don't need to go every week. Just go according to you budget, like if you can go just once per month, that's alright. It wil give you time to practice what you spoke, etc.
5: a good and professional psychologist will not want to keep you forever but the other way around. They what you to reach your goals and reinforce your weakness and be able to walk by yourself.
Good luck!!!