PurposefulDuck
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So I‘m in the midst of a sort of powder keg.. I have the potential for a large issue, and for now I’m basically just letting things take their course. I wanted to get some opinions if I could though.
I am dating a wonderful vanilla girl, been together about 4.5 years, and we have been very happy, she knows about my abdl side and is pretty okay with it, it’s never been something she chooses, I have to ask. That’s not exactly terrible, I know many would kill for that kind of situation. Simply to not be reviled is the goal of most abdls, acceptance is never assumed for us! However, my girlfriend and I don’t really share any hobbies and we have a fairly boring way of doing things. But there are no issues here, the biggest disagreement we have ever had was because I smoked one cigarette. We mesh well, and she and I have been getting more and more serious. However, I just feel like a big part of me is missing, I’m a very kinky person, And Anything like that was hard fought and won.
The reason I’m posting however, is because about a month ago I met an abdl online, she lives in my area, and we have been chatting for about a month now. As it turns out we have an ungodly list of things in common: music, hobbies, humor, habits (we haven’t really talked much about kink, I’m Kinda just assuming that we will probably find common ground When That comes up). Honestly I haven’t ever found someone who has such similar interests, and demeanor towards life. I’m an absolute weirdo as I’m sure someone reading this probably also understands. I don’t think she or I have interest in meeting In person soon, for me I just wouldn’t want to lie and I don’t think I can tell my girlfriend yet, for her I think she has some anxieties about strangers (as any normal adult would). The chatting has been pretty platonic and I do have plenty of girl friends I already text and talk with, so that isn’t really out of ordinary for me. The most questionable thing is that we have exchanged a few photos of us in dips. But there’s no sexual talk or anything like that.
My issue is basically, do I just stay friends with this new abdl and kinda hide it, do I try to explain the friendship to my girlfriend (who may understand)... Or (insert your option here). I don’t think I can break up with my girlfriend over a friendship, I love her, we live together and we are building a life. My hang up is, for me I feel like it’s every ABDL’s dream to find another of their preferred gender and explore an abdl relationship, it’s at least a dream of mine, and I don’t know if I will be able to forgive myself if I don’t at least see what this friendship could be. I don't ever plan on cheating, so if it were going to shift I would initiate a breakup for her sake.
Please if you have any advice that would be awesome. For now I’m going to continue being friends, and see what happens but, I can’t shake the feeling this is a bit untoward.
I am dating a wonderful vanilla girl, been together about 4.5 years, and we have been very happy, she knows about my abdl side and is pretty okay with it, it’s never been something she chooses, I have to ask. That’s not exactly terrible, I know many would kill for that kind of situation. Simply to not be reviled is the goal of most abdls, acceptance is never assumed for us! However, my girlfriend and I don’t really share any hobbies and we have a fairly boring way of doing things. But there are no issues here, the biggest disagreement we have ever had was because I smoked one cigarette. We mesh well, and she and I have been getting more and more serious. However, I just feel like a big part of me is missing, I’m a very kinky person, And Anything like that was hard fought and won.
The reason I’m posting however, is because about a month ago I met an abdl online, she lives in my area, and we have been chatting for about a month now. As it turns out we have an ungodly list of things in common: music, hobbies, humor, habits (we haven’t really talked much about kink, I’m Kinda just assuming that we will probably find common ground When That comes up). Honestly I haven’t ever found someone who has such similar interests, and demeanor towards life. I’m an absolute weirdo as I’m sure someone reading this probably also understands. I don’t think she or I have interest in meeting In person soon, for me I just wouldn’t want to lie and I don’t think I can tell my girlfriend yet, for her I think she has some anxieties about strangers (as any normal adult would). The chatting has been pretty platonic and I do have plenty of girl friends I already text and talk with, so that isn’t really out of ordinary for me. The most questionable thing is that we have exchanged a few photos of us in dips. But there’s no sexual talk or anything like that.
My issue is basically, do I just stay friends with this new abdl and kinda hide it, do I try to explain the friendship to my girlfriend (who may understand)... Or (insert your option here). I don’t think I can break up with my girlfriend over a friendship, I love her, we live together and we are building a life. My hang up is, for me I feel like it’s every ABDL’s dream to find another of their preferred gender and explore an abdl relationship, it’s at least a dream of mine, and I don’t know if I will be able to forgive myself if I don’t at least see what this friendship could be. I don't ever plan on cheating, so if it were going to shift I would initiate a breakup for her sake.
Please if you have any advice that would be awesome. For now I’m going to continue being friends, and see what happens but, I can’t shake the feeling this is a bit untoward.