100% agree with this. I can compartmentalize this as only 1% kink for me. I wear diapers 24/7 because of my severe urge IC. I am also a regressive little. That’s just a part of who I am.
If this is simply a kink, hobby or choice for you, then you can thank your lucky stars for that. When I first met my wife, she was actually quite accepting of using it as a kink/foreplay. Then she realized it was much more than that for me and, over time, she slowly acknowledged and accepted it. She is the dominant in our relationship, but not the nurturing mommy type. Could I have done better? Unlikely.
I haven’t dated in over 26 years, but when I did I was fortunate to have the good looks and personality so that women came to me and I could pick and choose. That being said I have only met a small percentage of women that I felt attracted to. Now imagine the much smaller percentage that I am attracted to and who are fine with me in diapers 24/7 and with being a little. My wife is that person. Is she thrilled with it? No, I don’t think so. Can she accept it because of all the other things I can offer. Absolutely.
You are better off looking for a person you are attracted to that can accept your ABDL because the likelihood of you finding an ABDL partner who you are also attracted too and want to spend the rest of your life with is much much smaller.