flapjackboy said:Ok, first off. If wearing diapers makes you happy, then it doesn't matter what your family or society thinks. What matters is what you think about it. Are you happy when you wear diapers? Yes? Good, carry on.
At the end of the day, it's just a slightly unusual underwear choice that you have made.
makena43 said:I have sat down and brainstorm of my thoughts. So here they are:
1. I am too old for diapers
2. Why do i need diapers if I know it and can make it.
3.I don't have a medical. Need.
4. Family states diapers are for babies, people in their 90's, medical and disabled.
5. I hope he/she can't. Tell I am wearing my diapers.
6 nobody wants to find out you are wearing a diapers.
7. This diaper makes my butt big or waddle.
8. Pissing in public is wrong.
That's my list and now somehow I got to disbelieving it. But how? Thank you.
Yooda said:That sentence would work well if it was describing an activity that involved absolutely only one person. But in my mind wearing diapers while in public, can very easily involve other people. If you switch the phrase "wearing diapers" with "robbing banks" here is how those 4 sentences could read:
Not the best rationale to do anything that has the potential to offend or upset others, or to increase your own worry about the activity.
- If robbing banks makes you happy, then it doesn't matter what your family or society thinks.
- What matters is what you think about it.
- Are you happy when you rob banks? Yes? Good, carry on.
- At the end of the day, it's just a slightly unusual type of loan that you have taken out.
Obviously robbing banks and trying to discreetly wear a diaper while in front of strangers and/ or friends, are not exactly the same, but tell that to those ABDL's who ended up in jail for offending one too many people with their diaper wearing.
In each legal case of this that I'm aware of, they intentionally exposed their diapers to random children, and freaked those kids out. I would think that wearing and not intentionally exposing to others is probably generally legally safe in the general public, but it all seems pretty fuzzy to me. Risking one's job security is an obvious potential shortcoming. Risking one's relationships with friends and associates is another. In my life, I simply put my foot down and said "no" when my ABDL side whispered to me, "it would be such great fun."
Being an ADBL is not the same as being gay. These two "small minority" activities each have different plusses and minuses. Yes, probably over the centuries gay people have suffered far more than ABDL's because: One, many gay people happen to also have certain personal traits that make them stand out, and make it near impossible for them to conceal their "gayness," and Two, also because the Judeo Christian mindset has historically labeled gay folks as "evil." On both of these accounts ABDL's have had the advantage over the gay community.
Still, on the opposite side, I see two major disadvantages that ABDL's have vs: the gay community: One, that our practice is primarily regarded by most as a fetish, and not as any kind of a "right" that we should be able to do it in public, and Two that the ABDL community is proportionately a much smaller segment of society than the gay community, and thusly it will take much much longer for society at large to be moved to generally accept it, if ever.
"If" and not "when" general society were to accept ABDL's wearing in public without any problem, I have no doubt that such an acceptance would occur long after I'm gone and forgotten. I have no desire to be any kind of a "martyr for the cause" of some type of ABDL acceptance that may or may not ever happen, and certainly won't happen in my lifetime.
makena43 said:I see how you guys made each one false. So its easier to disbelieving each one. I think just be thinking I am not in the wrong for wearing diapers and just enjoy myself. While work with a white polo shirt and baggy gray pants with apron and a tranquilly diaper. And change it every 2 pees .
makena43 said:He gave me to work on my fears. And learning. That wearing and liking diapers not wrong. Which this thread is helping.me with Slimo says I do need to face my fear. The more you do it the better
Yooda said:I guess it all comes down to perspective. For myself, discreetly wearing a diaper in front of others may mean one thing, and for others it may mean something entirely different. For me to imagine that my perspective is the only legitimate perspective is obviously quite foolish on my part, and I thank you for patiently pointing that out. So perhaps the only truly fair things that could be said about this are:
Each person needs to find what works best for him or herself, while also being respectful of the needs and comfort levels of those around him or herself.
- Always be considerate of others.
- Accept that some ABDL's are comfortable wearing diapers in public, and others are not.
- So long as diapers are worn in public as discreetly as reasonably possible, due consideration of others can generally be assumed, but don't necessarily expect all friends, family or associates, should they become aware that diapers are being worn, to be supportive or understanding, as the ABDL lifestyle is not easily understood by many.
Is this then a fair summary?
Yooda
makena43 said:I think you are right Yoda . I just want to use diapers just like. Underwear. Meaning. Your mind is focus on work and fun things. Not sitting there and worry if I will be caught
pamperluvs said:Please don’t come crying here again when it don’t workout for you. You have been advised to wear them just at home because wearing at work makes you uncomfortable. Your many posts have shown that. So what about the advice Sweet Princess gave you, or any of the other advice you have received. You are going in circles.