across the board from when i started dating around 16 until now in my 20s…if it was gonna get serious and not just some fun then i’d tell them…
first experience telling a girl as a straight guy…
when i was 16 and she was 18 at the time met at a beach and had a summer thing…a cute blonde girl that had a little brother who was 13 at time, her brother was cool though, family came from money like we did so he had loads of video games we’d play all the time which at the time annoyed tf out of my girlfriend lol she felt ignored
well anyway one night, the first night she ever came over to stay the night and i said hey can i tell you something and she was like yeah and i said “sooo i actually still wet my bed” and she was like oh like wet dreams? that’s normal for boys…then i said no like pee im actually still a bedwetter and she put her hand up to her mouth to cover a laugh which made me blush and at that point i wasn’t sure if it was over but a second later she asked…”so is it those goodnites big kid pull-ups or plastic sheets?, my little brother has both”
i was floored, she outed her little brother for being a bedwetter and it answered how she even new what goodnites were.
but i said oh umm goodnites and she smirked said it’s fine my little brother still does it too she giggled bc back then we wore the exact same pull-ups
after we fooled around she said, well better go put those pull-ups on! i don’t wanna get peed on and we fell asleep
we stayed together over the summer until she moved away out of state for college, once though she had me wear them for her as like a just for fun thing when she was over…she said i looked cute in them and we ended up making out with me wearing them and just a tshirt on my bedroom floor when my parents were at work. haha
TLDR:
point 1
i think this one and like two other experiences DEFINITELY contributed to me being a DL
point 2
depending on your looks, your demeanor, how you carry yourself, the situation, the girl/guy telling someone has never been bad for me, except one time when a girl laughed and told her friend.
don’t be afraid.
i actually had a super hot tinder date and fun experience even so you just never know.