Significant Other’s Outlook

[Ravensteel]

My wife has participated on and off over the years per my request but at this point wants nothing to do with my diaper hobby. She doesn't have a problem that I wear at all. She simply doesn't enjoy wearing.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't wish she were more actively involved. In the past she has let me diaper her and change me. We have been married about 8 years so maybe one day show be interested again.

 

[ARBBB2]

Don't know how many have read whats going on here, told my wife 2 1/2 to three years ago I was going to wear and wet diapers every night, She has know and was very involved since I told her when we were dating at 16 about diapers, about 9 years ago she said enough, no more diapers, then she said she wanted a divorce, told my 3 daughters couple grandkids , my pastor and some of her friends, that I wore and wet, said marriage was over as soon as covid cleared up, lucky for me its getting better but not gone.
since wearing she has been really really mad and fighting with me, and I have found being a baby that I am so much more loving and being really nice to her because I still love her! About an hour ago I told her what a good job she did on her duet at church today, and also asked what her dietiticon told her on Thursday, she said she had only lost 2 pounds this month, I told her I was looking at her from behind as she sang, and that I could tell she had lost weight and looked so much better, her legs were getting skinny again, ect ect, all truthful(she has lost 41 lbs now starting at Thanksgiving, so she is doing well, anyway she came over to me, gave me a hug and said she loved me, said she wanted to kiss me but no bringing (them up) ---diapers-she can't even say diapers! Anyway I am rather excited as she said 2 months ago divorce is off the table and now she hugged and kissed me on her own. I doubt she will ever have anything to do with diapers, but seems to be accepting that I am a baby at night and its OK!!!
sorry for going on and on but I am kind of excited! Also my dream car I have wanted for 51 years will be delivered in 20 min. from Fresno, Cali.

 

[aroninanappy]

#2 for me. I told her about my cross dressing and diapers before we married. I was young and naive and promised I could stop for her. She accepted but I couldn't keep that promise. I'd stay away for months or years but inevitably come back to it. Over time I'd get so guilty I'd confess and she'd get super angry. It was only this last time that she brought up divorce but I think it was the anger talking. She's accepted that these desires have been with me for my entire life and they aren't going away. However, she's made it clear that she only wants to see me as the man of the house. I think she believes that if she were to see me in women's clothes or a diaper that it would forever ruin my masculine image in her mind and she wouldn't be able to see me as her husband ever again.

I'm hoping to get her to have some discussions on the reality of masculinity (vs societal expectation) and the fact that diapers are just plastic and absorbent cloth. There is nothing wrong with them. They aren't hurting anything and they don't make me any less of a man. However, they do help relieve stress, they make me feel good, and I love wearing them. It's simply not hurting anyone!

I had a very similar response from my wife, I only ever told her of my DL side didn't even discuss my AB or sissy side but like you I think one big thing for her is the fear that it would make me less of a man.
It's not easy to accept but I can understand her thoughts, it's slowly changing but I guess it's still the main views of the world

 

[Tomtomthedl]

Don't know how many have read whats going on here, told my wife 2 1/2 to three years ago I was going to wear and wet diapers every night, She has know and was very involved since I told her when we were dating at 16 about diapers, about 9 years ago she said enough, no more diapers, then she said she wanted a divorce, told my 3 daughters couple grandkids , my pastor and some of her friends, that I wore and wet, said marriage was over as soon as covid cleared up, lucky for me its getting better but not gone.
since wearing she has been really really mad and fighting with me, and I have found being a baby that I am so much more loving and being really nice to her because I still love her! About an hour ago I told her what a good job she did on her duet at church today, and also asked what her dietiticon told her on Thursday, she said she had only lost 2 pounds this month, I told her I was looking at her from behind as she sang, and that I could tell she had lost weight and looked so much better, her legs were getting skinny again, ect ect, all truthful(she has lost 41 lbs now starting at Thanksgiving, so she is doing well, anyway she came over to me, gave me a hug and said she loved me, said she wanted to kiss me but no bringing (them up) ---diapers-she can't even say diapers! Anyway I am rather excited as she said 2 months ago divorce is off the table and now she hugged and kissed me on her own. I doubt she will ever have anything to do with diapers, but seems to be accepting that I am a baby at night and its OK!!!
sorry for going on and on but I am kind of excited! Also my dream car I have wanted for 51 years will be delivered in 20 min. from Fresno, Cali.

I wish you all the luck in the world, brother.

 

[Diaperman95]

Don't know how many have read whats going on here, told my wife 2 1/2 to three years ago I was going to wear and wet diapers every night, She has know and was very involved since I told her when we were dating at 16 about diapers, about 9 years ago she said enough, no more diapers, then she said she wanted a divorce, told my 3 daughters couple grandkids , my pastor and some of her friends, that I wore and wet, said marriage was over as soon as covid cleared up, lucky for me its getting better but not gone.
since wearing she has been really really mad and fighting with me, and I have found being a baby that I am so much more loving and being really nice to her because I still love her! About an hour ago I told her what a good job she did on her duet at church today, and also asked what her dietiticon told her on Thursday, she said she had only lost 2 pounds this month, I told her I was looking at her from behind as she sang, and that I could tell she had lost weight and looked so much better, her legs were getting skinny again, ect ect, all truthful(she has lost 41 lbs now starting at Thanksgiving, so she is doing well, anyway she came over to me, gave me a hug and said she loved me, said she wanted to kiss me but no bringing (them up) ---diapers-she can't even say diapers! Anyway I am rather excited as she said 2 months ago divorce is off the table and now she hugged and kissed me on her own. I doubt she will ever have anything to do with diapers, but seems to be accepting that I am a baby at night and its OK!!!
sorry for going on and on but I am kind of excited! Also my dream car I have wanted for 51 years will be delivered in 20 min. from Fresno, Cali.

I am glad you are able to salvage it if you guys still love each other. So I am excited for the two of you.
I think every ones expectations on this subject are as different as the relationship you are in. Some people just are not going to be into it. I never have really been much into porn at all so it is no issue for me but the wife things of it as cheating. But then I have friends that are like my wife does not care as long as I don't watch it around her and we have other friends that are a couple and watch it together. So it all depends on what each other are and are not willing to give up or participate in to make each other happy. As long as the two of you are happy with the compromises then more power to you.

 

[Luminaire]

Don't know how many have read whats going on here, told my wife 2 1/2 to three years ago I was going to wear and wet diapers every night, She has know and was very involved since I told her when we were dating at 16 about diapers, about 9 years ago she said enough, no more diapers, then she said she wanted a divorce, told my 3 daughters couple grandkids , my pastor and some of her friends, that I wore and wet, said marriage was over as soon as covid cleared up, lucky for me its getting better but not gone.
since wearing she has been really really mad and fighting with me, and I have found being a baby that I am so much more loving and being really nice to her because I still love her! About an hour ago I told her what a good job she did on her duet at church today, and also asked what her dietiticon told her on Thursday, she said she had only lost 2 pounds this month, I told her I was looking at her from behind as she sang, and that I could tell she had lost weight and looked so much better, her legs were getting skinny again, ect ect, all truthful(she has lost 41 lbs now starting at Thanksgiving, so she is doing well, anyway she came over to me, gave me a hug and said she loved me, said she wanted to kiss me but no bringing (them up) ---diapers-she can't even say diapers! Anyway I am rather excited as she said 2 months ago divorce is off the table and now she hugged and kissed me on her own. I doubt she will ever have anything to do with diapers, but seems to be accepting that I am a baby at night and its OK!!!
sorry for going on and on but I am kind of excited! Also my dream car I have wanted for 51 years will be delivered in 20 min. from Fresno, Cali.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You must have felt so betrayed when she exposed you like that. I kind of know what that feels like as my sister exposed my cross dressing to my friends and family when I was a teen and I've never really been able to forgive her. The fact that you still love her shows how strong and kind you are. I wish you the absolute best as you try and move forward.

 

[stuckin60s]

Does your wife know?
Have you never have the nerve to tell her?

No she does not know and I haven't had the courage to try to tell her because I know how it would turn out.

 

[diddles]

…There's also nothing wrong with avoiding relationships. I'm an extremely introverted engineer. I often wonder if I

…..my sister exposed my cross dressing to my friends and family when I was a teen and I've never really been able to forgive her.

Being extremely introverted would have made that so hard for you especially at that age. I’m sorry she did that to you Luminaire

 

[Diaperman95]

Being extremely introverted would have made that so hard for you especially at that age. I’m sorry she did that to you Luminaire

You know I wish a lot of things did not happen in my life. But I realize everything that has happened to me good or bad made me who I am.

 

[diddles]

You know I wish a lot of things did not happen in my life. But I realize everything that has happened to me good or bad made me who I am.

Yes, and like Paul Tillich said… ‘Suffering is the door, the only door, to the depth of truth’.
I’m glad that you like who you are Diaperman

 

[Luminaire]

You know I wish a lot of things did not happen in my life. But I realize everything that has happened to me good or bad made me who I am.

I feel the same. Every day is a new opportunity to keep moving forward.

 

[kotepaw135]

I've been hiding my DL side to my gf so I always have an urge to speak to other girls about diapers. I have several girls I've been able to persuade in wearing diaper and exchange photo/video with me. It was last year when I gave my old cp to my gf that I forgot that I have my social media accounts logged in still and she was seeing my messages with the other girls, diapers and all.

I'm forced to come clean, she took it in strides. Her last ultimatum is she'll allow me to diaper dry hump the last girl I was talking to and nothing after that. Gladly took the offer, did the deed and never talked to any girl again. But she now knows my DL side, we had a few diaper sex after that.

She tries getting into it but she doesn't like the plastic backed taped diapers I prefer. I was working out for months in hopes of slimming down to fit into a baby diaper again, I tested it yesterday and I was able to slip in a Goodnites perfectly. I guided her hands to my butt and she was suprised I was able to fit one, proceeds to pull down my boxers to see a closer look, felt really good. She told me she'll be wearing one this Feb 14. Was also able to persuade her to just wear one during her periods as well.

I'm also in a process of building a new house for us which will now include multiple rooms, that means I can freely wear diapers in my own room. I'm trying to be discreet around my current house as I don't want my young daughters to normalize me as a DL.

 

[SeniorMan]

It can really exchange our bondage sessions when hubby restrains me,

I want another to restrain me for an extended period in a bondage session.

 

[FrumJewDL]

#2 for me. She knows I wear and sometimes even changes me, but I try to keep her out of it for the most part. I am afraid that I might overdue it and lose it all.

 

[Tomtomthedl]

#2 for me. She knows I wear and sometimes even changes me, but I try to keep her out of it for the most part. I am afraid that I might overdue it and lose it all.

I'm the same way. Might be all in my head but I don't know.

 

[Diaperman95]

I've been hiding my DL side to my gf so I always have an urge to speak to other girls about diapers. I have several girls I've been able to persuade in wearing diaper and exchange photo/video with me. It was last year when I gave my old cp to my gf that I forgot that I have my social media accounts logged in still and she was seeing my messages with the other girls, diapers and all.

I'm forced to come clean, she took it in strides. Her last ultimatum is she'll allow me to diaper dry hump the last girl I was talking to and nothing after that. Gladly took the offer, did the deed and never talked to any girl again. But she now knows my DL side, we had a few diaper sex after that.

She tries getting into it but she doesn't like the plastic backed taped diapers I prefer. I was working out for months in hopes of slimming down to fit into a baby diaper again, I tested it yesterday and I was able to slip in a Goodnites perfectly. I guided her hands to my butt and she was suprised I was able to fit one, proceeds to pull down my boxers to see a closer look, felt really good. She told me she'll be wearing one this Feb 14. Was also able to persuade her to just wear one during her periods as well.

I'm also in a process of building a new house for us which will now include multiple rooms, that means I can freely wear diapers in my own room. I'm trying to be discreet around my current house as I don't want my young daughters to normalize me as a DL.

I tried not to let my kid see me run around in a diaper but they are smart as hell. She grown and married now but I remember getting attends vintage diapers at Kmart when she was little and the same time my wife was buying period pads. (I call them manhole covers. ) But I remember she was very little but she was in the basket and touched the wife's pads and said Momma pads and then touched my diapers and said daddy pads. That night we had along talk and to this day besides my wife she is my #1 supporter. I mean I used them for what they was and never no AB diapers but they still catch on fast. She always kept my secrete as far as I know.

 

[Hockeyczar]

My wife doesn't say too much about it, but I would say she doesn't really care for it.

 

[Subtlerustle]

My wife doesn't say too much about it, but I would say she doesn't really care for it.

Were you straight up open about since the beginning or did she find out on her own?

 

[Hockeyczar]

Were you straight up open about since the beginning or did she find out on her own?

Told her about it early, but during the last two years I started getting into stuffed animals and other other AB type things. After you are with someone for a while, they don't have to say anything, so you know when they don't like something. We sleep in separate rooms because of my work schedule and I keep it to myself.

 

[stuckin60s]

#2 for me. She knows I wear and sometimes even changes me, but I try to keep her out of it for the most part. I am afraid that I might overdue it and lose it all.

You are probably very wise to keep it low key and mostly to yourself. I could never come out with it it would never even a little bit fly here and I wouldn't want to hurt anyone over this lets face it it is not normal behavior and just plain weird. we all have a story to tell as to why we think we do what we do but it certainly isn't main stream.