I’ve ordered from Etsy plenty of times, and while ultimately your experience can vary from shop to shop, I’ve never had an issue with any of the ABDL stores I’ve bought from in the past. I love using Etsy because there is so much variety and so many interesting things you may not be able to find in your typical ABDL store, and also supporting small businesses and artists and those who are also genuinely into our community is always a plus!
The best advice with navigating Etsy is because each shop is different to check their policies, locations, shipping times—all of which the store should have posted somewhere on their page.