I have since changed my role to "other," because I didn't see that option when I signed up and DL was the closest thing I saw, but not very close, and I picked it grudgingly. I'm not at all AB, and I get no sexual enjoyment out of diapers, but neither do I medically need them; they solve some practical logistical problems for me. I don't do what I consider fetish posts at all, so I'm not sure what you mean by that.
Yes, I am very focused on compassion and understanding, always, but also practical help where I can offer some. That's just who I am. Thank you for the arguable compliment.
I'm not sure why you say I'm good at mixing up comments in different sections, though. I see many of the practical, logistical aspects of IC and DL as overlapping, even though the one is because they can, and the other is because they must. If they both do, there is information that is relevant to both.
I certainly have no wish to be anything other than helpful. If the simple fact that I have no medical necessity causes some to feel I'm not qualified to comment on practical and logistical things wherein I do have some relevant understanding, or matters of people being judgemental against one another, I guess there's nothing I can do about that. It's pretty clear that at least a few people here view me as a nuisance. I'm not quite sure if you do or not, but I suspect you do.
I have quickly gotten a sense that many (but definitely not all!) in the IC community resent those outside it who wear diapers without a medical necessity. As I've said before, sometimes the excesses of the AB/DL community make that pretty easy to do, and some of them make exceedingly thoughtless and insensitive remarks. A recent one (since deleted by mods) about becoming incontinent via cigarettes comes to mind; you may or may not have seen it. At any rate, the fact that those without a major medical problem will never fully understand the challenges of those with them doesn't seem to me to be a good reason to resent encouragement and attempts to offer practical advice.
I will own that I've said a few things which, while kindly meant, were probably unhelpful and would have been better skipped. I also tend toward a dogmatically confident tone which can feel very arrogant at times to others. I'm still learning to be sensitive to the needs of others, to offer my thoughts gently, and to know what is and is not helpful in a given situation. Even in the few weeks I've been here, I've learned a great deal. But know that my purpose was and is always to help and encourage.
I will (again) seriously consider just minding my own business, as I don't really believe I've accomplished much here other than annoying people. That really saddens me, because I tried so hard to be a help to people, even if all I had to offer them at that moment was a caring heart.