TheDiaperB0Y
Est. Contributor
- Messages
- 22
- Age
- 29
- Role
- Adult Baby
- Diaper Lover
- Little
I've been struggling with a dilemma,
I want to return to Fetlife, Instagram & social media to reconnect with fellow AB/DLs and make new friends again. However, I know that my emotional dysregulation caused by my ADHD and borderline personality disorder makes it difficult for me to maintain healthy relationships within the AB/DL community.
In the past, I was very active on social media like Instagram and Fetlife, trying to connect with people in the AB/DL community. While I made some great friends, my toxic self-destructive tendencies, fueled by my ADHD and borderline personality disorder always messed things up. My emotional rollercoaster often led me to damage relationships and then self-isolate when faced with criticism or fear of rejection. Due to my borderline personality disorder, I find myself seeking praise and attention in an unhealthy manner, a manifestation of the challenges associated with both my ADHD & BPD.
Looking back, I can't ignore the damage I caused within the AB/DL community on Instagram, Twitter & Fetlife. I don't know how to mend the reputation I tarnished. Some folks I befriended in the past dislike me now, thinking I'm a liar and a narcissistic jerk. I wish I could blame it all on my mental disorder, but I know that saying sorry won't fix things.
I get that blaming all my emotional issues on my mental health isn’t a productive way to seek understanding & forgiveness from other AB/DL friends. I am committed to becoming a better person, by actively working on managing my emotional dysfunction, I just want to make real connections in the AB/DL community without using my mental health as a crutch for my issues.
I've tried to grow from my past emotional temper tantrums, acknowledging my mistakes and working to change from the arrogant person I used to be.
I used to be a people-pleaser, forgetting my own boundaries, and it landed me in several unhealthy friendships. I had to step away from social media and the AB/DL community for my mental health, but now I want to reconnect with my old friends along with making new connections, despite my toxic emotional reputation.
I'm torn between reactivating my Fetlife account, making a new AB/DL Instagram, redownloading Telegram & Discord along with making a new Diaper. bois profile all in the hopes of reconnecting with old friends and making some new ones after disappearing off all social media platforms without a trace for almost a year and a half. or finding friends outside the AB/DL community who appreciate me beyond our shared diapered interests.
As much as I want to reconnect, I know my emotional struggles might continue to scare people away. or that I haven’t learned my lesson about my emotional immaturity.
Some folks have suggested finding friends outside the diapered AB/DL community, focusing on real genuine connections rather than shared diapered kink and little space.
Honestly, I'm at a loss for what to do.
I know the second I get back on social media or try to reconnect with old friends they’ll ask why I ghosted them & disappeared, without warning anyone about why I was leaving social media. even though I’d explain it was for my mental health and it wasn’t personal, people tend to be offended when someone they were close with suddenly cuts off all communication. I just assume nobody will truly care or understand why I continue to come back to the community for a while before getting overwhelmed with my self-hatred & emotional dysregulation to the point of going offline again for 6 to 9 months if not longer in some cases.
I just don't want to be alone anymore, but my desperation sometimes leads to being taken advantage of, continuing a toxic cycle of loneliness & emotional trauma. ( ˃̣̣̥⌓˂̣̣̥ )
For those facing challenges with Borderline Personality Disorder, ADHD, or any other mental health or neurodivergent condition, I'm curious about your strategies for handling anxiety, depression, and emotions positively. Additionally, how do you navigate building healthy relationships within the AB/DL community without feeling the need to conceal your true personality traits behind a facade of constant cheerfulness & an overwhelming desire to make everyone else happy & like you? It's a struggle for me to maintain authenticity when grappling with my sense of identity.
I genuinely don’t know who I am anymore.
(ㅠ﹏ㅠ)
I want to return to Fetlife, Instagram & social media to reconnect with fellow AB/DLs and make new friends again. However, I know that my emotional dysregulation caused by my ADHD and borderline personality disorder makes it difficult for me to maintain healthy relationships within the AB/DL community.
In the past, I was very active on social media like Instagram and Fetlife, trying to connect with people in the AB/DL community. While I made some great friends, my toxic self-destructive tendencies, fueled by my ADHD and borderline personality disorder always messed things up. My emotional rollercoaster often led me to damage relationships and then self-isolate when faced with criticism or fear of rejection. Due to my borderline personality disorder, I find myself seeking praise and attention in an unhealthy manner, a manifestation of the challenges associated with both my ADHD & BPD.
Looking back, I can't ignore the damage I caused within the AB/DL community on Instagram, Twitter & Fetlife. I don't know how to mend the reputation I tarnished. Some folks I befriended in the past dislike me now, thinking I'm a liar and a narcissistic jerk. I wish I could blame it all on my mental disorder, but I know that saying sorry won't fix things.
I get that blaming all my emotional issues on my mental health isn’t a productive way to seek understanding & forgiveness from other AB/DL friends. I am committed to becoming a better person, by actively working on managing my emotional dysfunction, I just want to make real connections in the AB/DL community without using my mental health as a crutch for my issues.
I've tried to grow from my past emotional temper tantrums, acknowledging my mistakes and working to change from the arrogant person I used to be.
I used to be a people-pleaser, forgetting my own boundaries, and it landed me in several unhealthy friendships. I had to step away from social media and the AB/DL community for my mental health, but now I want to reconnect with my old friends along with making new connections, despite my toxic emotional reputation.
I'm torn between reactivating my Fetlife account, making a new AB/DL Instagram, redownloading Telegram & Discord along with making a new Diaper. bois profile all in the hopes of reconnecting with old friends and making some new ones after disappearing off all social media platforms without a trace for almost a year and a half. or finding friends outside the AB/DL community who appreciate me beyond our shared diapered interests.
As much as I want to reconnect, I know my emotional struggles might continue to scare people away. or that I haven’t learned my lesson about my emotional immaturity.
Some folks have suggested finding friends outside the diapered AB/DL community, focusing on real genuine connections rather than shared diapered kink and little space.
Honestly, I'm at a loss for what to do.
I know the second I get back on social media or try to reconnect with old friends they’ll ask why I ghosted them & disappeared, without warning anyone about why I was leaving social media. even though I’d explain it was for my mental health and it wasn’t personal, people tend to be offended when someone they were close with suddenly cuts off all communication. I just assume nobody will truly care or understand why I continue to come back to the community for a while before getting overwhelmed with my self-hatred & emotional dysregulation to the point of going offline again for 6 to 9 months if not longer in some cases.
I just don't want to be alone anymore, but my desperation sometimes leads to being taken advantage of, continuing a toxic cycle of loneliness & emotional trauma. ( ˃̣̣̥⌓˂̣̣̥ )
For those facing challenges with Borderline Personality Disorder, ADHD, or any other mental health or neurodivergent condition, I'm curious about your strategies for handling anxiety, depression, and emotions positively. Additionally, how do you navigate building healthy relationships within the AB/DL community without feeling the need to conceal your true personality traits behind a facade of constant cheerfulness & an overwhelming desire to make everyone else happy & like you? It's a struggle for me to maintain authenticity when grappling with my sense of identity.
I genuinely don’t know who I am anymore.
(ㅠ﹏ㅠ)