siysiy said:
Hi kiddo.
1) They have no right to your things. You might live in there house, but that doesn't give them the right to make you do anything you don't want to do.
2) and this is going to be hard for you. But it will bring around new freedom for you.
Telling them where to get off.
Ok you don't need to be that harsh, I suggest you right them a letter, this way you can thank them for bring you up, and tell them how much you love them, but also tell them how they made you feel regarding your ABDL, and how diaper make you feel.
Writing a letter like this means you can say what you want with our getting tung tiyed or being interrupted.
Pluss you can rewrite it as many time as is needed.
Next I would encourage you to get your thing together, make sure no one can take a lone out on your back account, and you have thing like insurances, passport, birth certificate, ect to gether and in a safe place.
I know it sounds strange but just incase you find your self in a situation where you need to leave, you will need those documents.
I hope things work out for you kiddo.
Let us know how things work out.
Hugs
This is TERRIBLE advise. Don't listen to this.
Assuming OP is a minor, they ABSOLUTELY have every right to go through your things, and to "make" you do something you don't necessarily want to do..within the confines of the law, and assuming they aren't using methods which could be construed as abusive.
Telling them where to get off is terrible advise, because it will only serve to make them MORE angry, and feel like you're challenging them and their authority, which NO parent ever wants their child to do. It makes them feel like they've lost control, and control is the only thing that most parents feel like has allowed them to successfully keep you alive for the past however many years it's been since little you came into their lives!
Trust me, being a parent is HARD. The constant fear of failure looms over our heads 24 hours a day.. and I LITERALLY mean, 24 hours a day.. as sometimes we lay awake at night, JUST worrying about YOU (our children).
This is why parents will often over-react, or react negatively to something like finding our children's hidden stash of specialized, adult-sized "baby" diapers hidden in their closets! LOL.
It's a tough pill to swallow for any parent! Especially since they don't understand what it is, or what it means! To an outside 3rd party, it's much easier to learn about ABDL and "get" why it's a thing for some people, as we're much more willing to be accepting of strange/odd/unusual desires of friends or random strangers, but when it comes to our own children, it can be catastrophic all of the thoughts that would likely pop into our heads when it's OUR child, not some stranger!
Every parent is different, so I can't tell you how you personally should address your situation, but.. what I CAN tell you it that it would suit you to NOT freak out on them for going through your stuff or anything like that, it would just make the situation worse!
No matter what you do, just always remember that as parents, we LOVE you, no matter what! We may be totally freaked out, confused, sickened, etc about just finding diapers in your bedroom, but regardless on where we land on that, we're always going to love you!
So my advise would be to capitalize on that undying love! Try to approach one or both of your parents, sit down and talk to them. Explain to them that it's nothing to worry about.. reassure them that there's NO harm in what you're doing. Be prepared for the question, "WHY would you WANT to do.. THAT of all things!!" and it's totally OKAY to tell them, "I don't know WHY I like them, but it's just something I enjoy doing in private. They give me feelings of comfort and safety. They help me when I feel upset, depressed, overwhelmed, etc. I hid them from you because they're embarrassing! They are just something that I enjoy in private. They're just for ME. Think of it like a security blanket. And since it wasn't causing myself or anyone else any harm, I felt like it was "okay" and totally appropriate for me to NOT share them with you, or anyone else for that matter.
Mom.. they are completely harmless. It's not like I'm doing drugs, drinking, or sneaking out, driving around, and partying with friends! Think of it like.. nothing more than putting on a costume.
You wouldn't think there were any harm in it if you peaked in my room and you saw me dressed up like Elvis and doing an impersonation in front of my mirror, would you? (otherwise choose any other famous person from the Boomer generation that they'll know of).
It's kind of like that! I'm just putting on a costume because it makes me feel happy.. in the comfort and safety of my own bedroom. It's actually a pretty wholesome and safe way to relieve stress if you think about it!
You don't have to APPROVE.. but I would really appreciate if you were at least willing to be understanding and accepting of this..and if you do, you'd really be doing something GOOD for the sake of my mental health and personal well-being, because it's something that I like to do in order to help relax and cope with life when I feel like I need a little comfort.
If you would be willing to let me have this for myself, and just forget all about it and pretend like you never even saw it.. I promise I'll keep it private and never let it disturb or disrupt you or anyone else ever again!
I'm hoping that you can just be understanding so that we can just move on, and never talk about this again, and thank you Mom.. I LOVE you!
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Hopefully you can pick and choose some stuff out that little fictional reenactment that will help you get them off your back about it, and who knows.. maybe they'll even be understanding of it, and they'll encourage it once they find out that's its actually something POSITIVE in your life, and not something sick, perverted, or unholy.
well, good luck!
