My Friend Now Knows I Wet and Mess my Diapers, and He Wasn't Happy! Need Some Advice. Help Pls!

[Diaperboy27]

For the first time ever I recorded myself wetting and messing my Diaper to post on my JustForFans. Then I had it post the link to Twitter...or so I thought. Turns out instead of the usual link and a blurred image it showed 4 seconds of the video! So, it actually showed me with the backside of my Diaper pointing at the phone camera ready to mess my Diaper before the 4-seconds ended! It said watch the rest on JFF. I didn't want the video on Twitter! Just the link.

So, going forward I'm not going to be telling it to post to Twitter when it comes to videos, but pictures are fine as they're blurred, because what happened next was a disaster! My friend calls me up and these were his exact words..."please don't tell me you piss and shit in your Diaper! I understand the whole wanting to dress and act like a Baby thing, but you are a grown-ass man! There's no reason for you to be pissing and shitting in your Diaper! I saw that shit, and there wasn't even a warning on this one! I was like "no, don't tell me he actually recorded himself pissing and shitting his Diaper!"

I didn't know what he meant by "no warning" and that "he saw it!" So, I went to Twitter and that's when I saw the 4-second clip that got posted! So, I deleted it immediately and will not share videos from JFF to Twitter since they will be 4-second clips. I was so embarrassed and apologized to him. I told sorry he had to see that, and that it wouldn't happen again. He asked me why I would do that? He didn't think I actually wet/mess my Diapers. I told him "well I mean that's what they're for that's their whole purpose!"

I told him he's welcome to unfollow me on Twitter because I warned him there's probably gonna be a lot of ABDL content on my Twitter now. I told him it unintentionally happened that way but that was mostly what I used it for, and 90% of my followers are ABDL so, I was never gonna become an influencer or anything like that. None of my non-ABDL followers seemed to care, they still followed me anyway. I even made a thread saying I was ABDL and proud! If they didn't care why should I? I wasn't gonna apologize for being an ABDL it's part of who I am and I've become much more accepting of myself and more open about it. If people don't like it they can block/unfollow me.

I don't have a lot of non-ABDL followers anyway so, it doesn't even matter. I even have a warning in my description for people who wanna follow that aren't ABDL, if any. Even going as far as to add a Baby Bottle and Diaper Pin emoji to the end of my Twitter handle so, if anyone is curious about that, they can click on my page and read the description. So far no one has said anything about the bottle or pin or treated me any different. People really don't care. Which is great because that's how we work towards a more ABDL accepting world! But anyway I'm getting off-topic.

The point is there's now A LOT of ABDL Tweets and Retweets on my Twitter and I told my friend if he's uncomfortable with that he's welcome to unfollow me. We didn't say much after that and just said bye and hung up. I was hoping we can just forget about it and just get back to normal. I was so embarrassed and worried last night because I didn't know what today would bring. I kept thinking like "is this the end of our friendship? Is he not gonna be able to handle this? Is he not gonna wanna talk to me for awhile? Is he gonna treat me any different now?" These questions and more were all going through my head last night making it hard to sleep. Tankfully we talked twice today like nothing happened so he must've gotten over it. Things seem fine now and I think our friendship has still survived.

I still wouldn't mind sone advice on how I can deal with this going forward though. So, how did you deal with something like this ADISC community? I'm sure a great deal of you have had people in your life not only discovering you were ABDL but that you wet and/or mess your Diapers. So, how did that go? Were they OK with it? Were they not OK with it? Did they think it was gross? Did they tell you shouldn't be doing this? Let me know all your stories and experiences in the comments down below and maybe I can apply some of that knowledge on how deal with this myself. Or do you think I even need to deal with it at all? Should I just continue to let it be swept under the rug like it never happened, not worry about it, move on and only bring it up again if he brings it up again? Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks and as always...stay Diapered!

-ABDElsa

Just let it be & give him some space on that matter just talk about other stuff in your lives that you agree on see how well it goes. If you guys don’t talk about it again then it should be smooth sailing.

 

[ABDElsa]

Just let it be & give him some space on that matter just talk about other stuff in your lives that you agree on see how well it goes. If you guys don’t talk about it again then it should be smooth sailing.

Thanks. I went over his house today to play some Hogwarts Legacy and Mario 3D World so, I think everything is fine. So, I'm not gonna mention it again unless he does.

 

[todderhr]

"please don't tell me you piss and shit in your Diaper! I understand the whole wanting to dress and act like a Baby thing, but you are a grown-ass man! There's no reason for you to be pissing and shitting in your Diaper! I saw that shit, and there wasn't even a warning on this one! I was like "no, don't tell me he actually recorded himself pissing and shitting his Diaper!"

I told him "well I mean that's what they're for that's their whole purpose!"

My first thought was, "What else are you supposed to do in them?" When I first told my wife that I did that she was like, "I don't understand what you get out of that, but okay..."

Maybe he is just in shock. It's really no big deal, there is a rather huge number of people in the world that does this all the time.

 

[todderhr]

To be as out and accepted as LGBTQ communities is quite a stretch. It would be better for us to advocate for more universal acceptance and let that blanket cover us, too. Our aim should be getting people to the point of logically thinking “that thing doesn’t affect me, so it shouldn’t bother me, if it bothers me, maybe I need to increase my acceptance for things that don’t affect me”.

I know a few gay guys that are rather vanilla-gay, not into any kink at all. One found a dildo in trunk of his father's car and was shocked. "what does a straight man need a dildo for?" and really had no clue that straight guys like being pegged also.

Heard things like "grinder and hookup apps are gross" and "if some guy sends me a dick pic, I'll never date them."

Go figure.

 

[ABDElsa]

My first thought was, "What else are you supposed to do in them?" When I first told my wife that I did that she was like, "I don't understand what you get out of that, but okay..."

Maybe he is just in shock. It's really no big deal, there is a rather huge number of people in the world that does this all the time.

Right?! What else ARE you supposed to do in them?! Yeah he probably was in shock, and you're right it's not a big deal.

 

[ShyGirl91]

For the first time ever I recorded myself wetting and messing my Diaper to post on my JustForFans. Then I had it post the link to Twitter...or so I thought. Turns out instead of the usual link and a blurred image it showed 4 seconds of the video! So, it actually showed me with the backside of my Diaper pointing at the phone camera ready to mess my Diaper before the 4-seconds ended! It said watch the rest on JFF. I didn't want the video on Twitter! Just the link.

So, going forward I'm not going to be telling it to post to Twitter when it comes to videos, but pictures are fine as they're blurred, because what happened next was a disaster! My friend calls me up and these were his exact words..."please don't tell me you piss and shit in your Diaper! I understand the whole wanting to dress and act like a Baby thing, but you are a grown-ass man! There's no reason for you to be pissing and shitting in your Diaper! I saw that shit, and there wasn't even a warning on this one! I was like "no, don't tell me he actually recorded himself pissing and shitting his Diaper!"

I didn't know what he meant by "no warning" and that "he saw it!" So, I went to Twitter and that's when I saw the 4-second clip that got posted! So, I deleted it immediately and will not share videos from JFF to Twitter since they will be 4-second clips. I was so embarrassed and apologized to him. I told sorry he had to see that, and that it wouldn't happen again. He asked me why I would do that? He didn't think I actually wet/mess my Diapers. I told him "well I mean that's what they're for that's their whole purpose!"

I told him he's welcome to unfollow me on Twitter because I warned him there's probably gonna be a lot of ABDL content on my Twitter now. I told him it unintentionally happened that way but that was mostly what I used it for, and 90% of my followers are ABDL so, I was never gonna become an influencer or anything like that. None of my non-ABDL followers seemed to care, they still followed me anyway. I even made a thread saying I was ABDL and proud! If they didn't care why should I? I wasn't gonna apologize for being an ABDL it's part of who I am and I've become much more accepting of myself and more open about it. If people don't like it they can block/unfollow me.

I don't have a lot of non-ABDL followers anyway so, it doesn't even matter. I even have a warning in my description for people who wanna follow that aren't ABDL, if any. Even going as far as to add a Baby Bottle and Diaper Pin emoji to the end of my Twitter handle so, if anyone is curious about that, they can click on my page and read the description. So far no one has said anything about the bottle or pin or treated me any different. People really don't care. Which is great because that's how we work towards a more ABDL accepting world! But anyway I'm getting off-topic.

The point is there's now A LOT of ABDL Tweets and Retweets on my Twitter and I told my friend if he's uncomfortable with that he's welcome to unfollow me. We didn't say much after that and just said bye and hung up. I was hoping we can just forget about it and just get back to normal. I was so embarrassed and worried last night because I didn't know what today would bring. I kept thinking like "is this the end of our friendship? Is he not gonna be able to handle this? Is he not gonna wanna talk to me for awhile? Is he gonna treat me any different now?" These questions and more were all going through my head last night making it hard to sleep. Tankfully we talked twice today like nothing happened so he must've gotten over it. Things seem fine now and I think our friendship has still survived.

I still wouldn't mind sone advice on how I can deal with this going forward though. So, how did you deal with something like this ADISC community? I'm sure a great deal of you have had people in your life not only discovering you were ABDL but that you wet and/or mess your Diapers. So, how did that go? Were they OK with it? Were they not OK with it? Did they think it was gross? Did they tell you shouldn't be doing this? Let me know all your stories and experiences in the comments down below and maybe I can apply some of that knowledge on how deal with this myself. Or do you think I even need to deal with it at all? Should I just continue to let it be swept under the rug like it never happened, not worry about it, move on and only bring it up again if he brings it up again? Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks and as always...stay Diapered!

-ABDElsa

This must have been very heart-stopping. I'm sorry. I think it's possible your friend was just shocked. Too often, people who don't understand other people, react harshly and critically. It sounds like your friend does care about you since he is aware you are ABDL. He may just need some time with what happened because he just doesn't understand and I think it just made him uncomfortable. This is not to say there's anything wrong with us using diapers. It just may be uncomfortable to many who don't walk in our shoes.
I encourage you not to apologize for being yourself. I know it's easier said than done, especially when we have people in our lives we don't want to lose. (I'm still learning to love myself and not be as uptight about what everyone thinks).
I've learned that those who genuinely love me for me will stick around and still love me.
It sounds like your friend still cares about you. Your friend probably just needs some time.
Remember, you aren't hurting anyone. This is your safe place.
Sending love and prayers for you.

 

[ABDElsa]

This must have been very heart-stopping. I'm sorry. I think it's possible your friend was just shocked. Too often, people who don't understand other people, react harshly and critically. It sounds like your friend does care about you since he is aware you are ABDL. He may just need some time with what happened because he just doesn't understand and I think it just made him uncomfortable. This is not to say there's anything wrong with us using diapers. It just may be uncomfortable to many who don't walk in our shoes.
I encourage you not to apologize for being yourself. I know it's easier said than done, especially when we have people in our lives we don't want to lose. (I'm still learning to love myself and not be as uptight about what everyone thinks).
I've learned that those who genuinely love me for me will stick around and still love me.
It sounds like your friend still cares about you. Your friend probably just needs some time.
Remember, you aren't hurting anyone. This is your safe place.
Sending love and prayers for you.

Thanks so much for your wonderful words! You're making me tear up Yeah he was just shocked and reacted harshly because it made him uncomfortable. No there's absolutely nothing wrong with us USING our Diapers, and we're NOT hurting anybody you're right. I wouldn't dream of apologizing for being myself, but I DID apologize for making him upset and uncomfortable, as well as unintentionally subjecting him to my lifestyle that he's not into. But I've never apologized for being ABDL or for USING Diapers, and I'm not going to! Yes he still cares about me very much and things seem fine now. I even went to his house today to play Hogwarts Legacy and Super Mario 3D World. So, I think now we can put this behind us, and I won't bring it up again unless he brings it up.

 

[Anemone]

To be as out and accepted as LGBTQ communities is quite a stretch. It would be better for us to advocate for more universal acceptance and let that blanket cover us, too. Our aim should be getting people to the point of logically thinking “that thing doesn’t affect me, so it shouldn’t bother me, if it bothers me, maybe I need to increase my acceptance for things that don’t affect me”.

To be as our and accepted as straight communities has to be the gold standard. Unrealistic perhaps but we might as well aim higher than subject to organised hatred.

LGBT acceptance has a long way to go, for all the progress that has been made.

 

[ShyGirl91]

Thanks so much for your wonderful words! You're making me tear up Yeah he was just shocked and reacted harshly because it made him uncomfortable. No there's absolutely nothing wrong with us USING our Diapers, and we're NOT hurting anybody you're right. I wouldn't dream of apologizing for being myself, but I DID apologize for making him upset and uncomfortable, as well as unintentionally subjecting him to my lifestyle that he's not into. But I've never apologized for being ABDL or for USING Diapers, and I'm not going to! Yes he still cares about me very much and things seem fine now. I even went to his house today to play Hogwarts Legacy and Super Mario 3D World. So, I think now we can put this behind us, and I won't bring it up again unless he brings it up.

Awe, I'm glad it's good to hear things are okay between the two of you. I'm happy you are accepting of yourself! You seem like a really good friend to have! *hugs*