Howwedoin
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My apologies for the long story. I separated myself from my family (parents/brother) because it was easier to step away than deal with their BS. My wife is done with intimacy and wants nothing to do with it. (we have 3 teen boys so you can connect the dots!) I've tried everything and reduced my wishes to just let me touch you and I want nothing in return. I help around the house and am a very loving, helpful husband. It's frustrating because it's been over a year since we've done anything intimate and before that, it was almost a year! We're in our early 40s and have been married almost 20 years! I keep telling her I am not old and don't want to give up.
I have been into diapers all my life. I brought it to her attention many years ago but this past year & a half I have been wearing to bed every night. I have found it to be a very good stress reliever and have found it to be a great way to take my mind off wanting intimacy after being rejected so many times. It's more of a comfort or a distraction.
Now to the reason for this post. Over Christmas some things were said by her mom to other family members about her that are not true. My wife was very angry and has been angry at her mother for a while. Anywho, I felt like she was feeling like she wasn't loved anymore.
I had some supportive words for her when she woke up Saturday morning and it ended up about diapers. I told her that she is loved and that she focuses too much on the negative people away from her and should look back at the person who loves her and always does (ME!). I explained how there is a time when people was loved unconditionally and explained how she showed love to our kids in a different way when they were babies and toddlers. Every time I put a diaper on, I get that feeling of comfort, security and calmness. She commented that she started to feel like that's why I was wearing more. We have a need to be wanted and loved and I want to restore that feeling with her. I told her that I feel like she doesn't feel loved right now. I assured her I wouldn't make it weird and would like to put a diaper on her and cuddle her to go to sleep. I explained that it would be an hour minimum and would like her to just try it and allow me to take control and make her feel like I'm taking care of her.
I explained how getting rejected when I'm asking for intimacy makes me feel and how wearing a diaper helps me cope and mentioned that I would even be open to her asking if I had my diaper on at bed time. Even showed her how she could ask and assured her that it doesn't have to be weird or gross. It's a loving gesture in my opinion. When we went to bed two nights after, I had my diaper on but nothing was mentioned but I did tell her that I think I'm going to go to bed when she does. We cuddled a little bit then rolled over and went to sleep. No mention of the diaper which is fine. This morning, she did ask if I slept better and I said I somewhat did and thanked her for cuddling with me.
I don't know where this post is going but it's open to suggestions, conversation and your own experience.
I have been into diapers all my life. I brought it to her attention many years ago but this past year & a half I have been wearing to bed every night. I have found it to be a very good stress reliever and have found it to be a great way to take my mind off wanting intimacy after being rejected so many times. It's more of a comfort or a distraction.
Now to the reason for this post. Over Christmas some things were said by her mom to other family members about her that are not true. My wife was very angry and has been angry at her mother for a while. Anywho, I felt like she was feeling like she wasn't loved anymore.
I had some supportive words for her when she woke up Saturday morning and it ended up about diapers. I told her that she is loved and that she focuses too much on the negative people away from her and should look back at the person who loves her and always does (ME!). I explained how there is a time when people was loved unconditionally and explained how she showed love to our kids in a different way when they were babies and toddlers. Every time I put a diaper on, I get that feeling of comfort, security and calmness. She commented that she started to feel like that's why I was wearing more. We have a need to be wanted and loved and I want to restore that feeling with her. I told her that I feel like she doesn't feel loved right now. I assured her I wouldn't make it weird and would like to put a diaper on her and cuddle her to go to sleep. I explained that it would be an hour minimum and would like her to just try it and allow me to take control and make her feel like I'm taking care of her.
I explained how getting rejected when I'm asking for intimacy makes me feel and how wearing a diaper helps me cope and mentioned that I would even be open to her asking if I had my diaper on at bed time. Even showed her how she could ask and assured her that it doesn't have to be weird or gross. It's a loving gesture in my opinion. When we went to bed two nights after, I had my diaper on but nothing was mentioned but I did tell her that I think I'm going to go to bed when she does. We cuddled a little bit then rolled over and went to sleep. No mention of the diaper which is fine. This morning, she did ask if I slept better and I said I somewhat did and thanked her for cuddling with me.
I don't know where this post is going but it's open to suggestions, conversation and your own experience.