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My partner (still fairly new) asks IC questions. I think some of them are because she's curious and other times it's legitimately medical concerns. Either way I try to answer
her questions clearly and direct.
Last weekend she asked if I can feel me wetting (or messing). I told her when I'm sleeping I obviously don't feel anything. Then she asked me if I can feel it during the day.
I answered that I always feel it. Both. She then asked if I ever try to hold it. That was easy. I used to hold it when I was a kid but as I got older (I'm in my early 30's) I don't.
Mostly because the urgency can sometimes be painful. I did tell her that if I'm out with her or around others, I try to hold a BM as long as I can. Sometimes I might have a few minutes and sometimes not.
She asked if anyone ever noticed and I said I'm pretty good at disguising it. Of course sometimes I can't. She said that occasionally she'll notice when I have a panic look but never smells anything (half win - I explained about how internal deodorants work). Noticing has always been a part anxiety and sometimes fear. But I think most long-time IC people became mental attitude-adjusted.
My question for you is : do you feel anything? Or do you notice with others noticing when an accident happens?
her questions clearly and direct.
Last weekend she asked if I can feel me wetting (or messing). I told her when I'm sleeping I obviously don't feel anything. Then she asked me if I can feel it during the day.
I answered that I always feel it. Both. She then asked if I ever try to hold it. That was easy. I used to hold it when I was a kid but as I got older (I'm in my early 30's) I don't.
Mostly because the urgency can sometimes be painful. I did tell her that if I'm out with her or around others, I try to hold a BM as long as I can. Sometimes I might have a few minutes and sometimes not.
She asked if anyone ever noticed and I said I'm pretty good at disguising it. Of course sometimes I can't. She said that occasionally she'll notice when I have a panic look but never smells anything (half win - I explained about how internal deodorants work). Noticing has always been a part anxiety and sometimes fear. But I think most long-time IC people became mental attitude-adjusted.
My question for you is : do you feel anything? Or do you notice with others noticing when an accident happens?