Did you struggle to find a partner?

[Wetshisbed]

I have never struggled to find a partner though none of the local girls would go out with me because everyone knew I was a bedwetter. My first serious girlfriend was a bedwetter and it never bothered me. My wife grew up a chronic nightly bedwetter like me but stopped during her teens.

 

[Soggy247]

Ive had 3 long term relationships and they all knew about my nappies. Ive had a few 1 night stands also and they were more intrigued than anything else. I have met my current GF and she is totally incontinent so we have a great understanding of eachother. I think my current is deffo the 1 I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with though.

 

[Zeke]

I was married when I had the incident that caused my spinal injury and later when I had the 2 level anterior cervical fusion to deal with it. Unfortunately my wife decided that she wanted a divorce around 3 months after my surgery and it was finalized nearly 2 agonizing years later (damned lawyers!). Since my religious beliefs don’t allow for me to remarry after divorce when my wife is still living I’ve remained celibate since then, but judging by my wife’s reaction at the time of my cervical surgery I’m pretty sure that I would be on my own when it came to my dual ic which developed around 8 years ago. Then 4 years ago, just prior to Halloween, she succumbed to cancer. I’m not sure if it was uterine, cervical, or ovarian, but the tumor had entwined her aorta making it inoperable and, in effect, untreatable. So I was free to be married again according to my beliefs, but what woman in her right mind is going to want a dual ic, 67 year old man who’s been living by himself for more than 3 decades? So I would dare say that it would be a struggle for me to find a partner that would like to be married to me. It’s gotten so bad that I’ve got to keep bribing my dog with Milk Bones to keep her from leaving.

 

[Tenaman]

I have been married for 29 years and told my wife on the first date when things were getting 'intimate'. I had had a spinal injury (neck) playing rugby and also injured my spine in the army. She was very understanding. Though she did refer to the adult nappies I wore (Tena Slip) as 'passion killers'!

 

[Karoq]

I'm also lucky to have a supportive partner who understands my need to wear diapers. We have been together for over four years and in that time my incontinence has gotten worse and worse. While my partner isn't IC she has still understood my need to wear every night and now in the days as well. It does help that we talk about it sometimes just to make sure we both feel understood on the subject, it's mostly me venting but it's always a good conversation to have.

Ditto. My second wife is great with the whole issue of my night time wetting, wearing nappies and general bladder issues. She looks out for me, reminds me to get padded up for long journeys or if I fall asleep on sofa. She happily washes my cloth nappies and is still intimate through touch and caresses when I am in bed. My first wife could not handle this and it partly led to our break up. Now, I can spoon into my wife even when my nappy is wet and she will give me attention to with teasing touches. I do my own changing and clean ups but I never feel embarrassed about her seeing me put my nappy on in front of her or walking around the house with my nappy showing when I get up.

 

[FLsolarSparky02]

i been luckey meet a few guy who had UC and one the cool with it

i was up frount about it on my dating profile. Is their gunna fine out soon anyway

 

[DorothyPansy]

I am so glad for all you the lady I dated was very attractive so maybe me completely dressed as a little girl in a nappy and white tights pink frilly dress pink mary-janes blonde wig pink bows & pink balloons was probably not the man she was looking for I understand though.

 

[DorianLogan]

I consider myself a very lucky person. I met my current partner about 8 years ago, on Facebook. We were close on everything ABDL, but we have a lot of common tastes apart from that. With him I came out of the closet and was able to embrace the LGBT+ community as well. And despite not having any ABDL in my town, him deciding to come live where I live makes me feel less lonely in general.

 

[Deleted member 55353]

I've never really bothered trying to look outside ABDL circles. I did a couple of times and was ghosted by the girl when i brought up DL. Would not bother trying a non ABDL relationship on the hope that if i told them one day they miiiight be accepting...or even into it. You know worst case is they back away slowly, run out the door and tell the whole town about "the diaper creepo". oh well

 

[InconLifer]

I haven't had any relationships post-physical disability. It's mainly because it's hard to meet people as groups on sites like Meetup tend to meet in pubs which often aren't wheelchair accessible. Plus, most things tend to be in the evening and it's dangerous trying to get back at night here because of lack of visibility. It's one of the reasons I hope to go back to uni, I'm feeling very isolated at the moment.

 

[Napincolove]

Very fortunately I have an extremely loving wife who was always very aware of my bladder shortcomings and when my ic issues started she was the one who helped my visit doctors, specialists and ultimately continence advisors.
She even buys Nappies for me to try and I have no trouble talking about my problems with her, she hss hervown set of problems and I am fairly sure there have been a few occasions when we both set out for the day fully Nappied up !
No one can replace my other half and nor would I even try.

 

[MetalDan86]

I’m not IC, but have had enough trouble in dating realm, even without divulging my love for diapers. Some of it is from being a biromantic ace in the Midwest of Iowa, and otherwise it is a lot of just lacking experience…

 

[FLsolarSparky02]

Without a doubt IC people struggle to find a partner. I've always been IC and had limited success hooking up with an intimate partner. I think most of our members
struggle to find a girlfriend or boyfriend. At any age. I finally found one after years without having a girlfriend. It was stressful and frustrating. On top of this I had little sexual experience along with anxiety. I think most people will find the right one eventually. But being IC, having to wear a diaper, it obviously complicates dating.

Without giving too much details, I started having a friend that we did thing together. We both liked doing the same activities (biking, tennis and hiking). She was attractive, cute and sensitive. She finally started asking questions about my bathroom routines (never visited one). Eventually she mentioned a diaper and I finally had to admit it. A very difficult answer. Anyway, so here we are.

How difficult it was to find a partner? Did you find a possible partner who found out about your IC? Or did you tell her first? Successes or failures? My hope is that other IC people will comment on the questions. Almost all IC people struggle with this. It might help.

yeah hookups are easy finding a staple relationship is kind of difficult

 

[Zeke]

Ditto. My second wife is great with the whole issue of my night time wetting, wearing nappies and general bladder issues. She looks out for me, reminds me to get padded up for long journeys or if I fall asleep on sofa. She happily washes my cloth nappies and is still intimate through touch and caresses when I am in bed. My first wife could not handle this and it partly led to our break up. Now, I can spoon into my wife even when my nappy is wet and she will give me attention to with teasing touches. I do my own changing and clean ups but I never feel embarrassed about her seeing me put my nappy on in front of her or walking around the house with my nappy showing when I get up.

I was just thinking about wives that think that they have it rough when their husbands walk around the house in their underwear! It takes a special woman to not let it bother them when they see their other half in diapers so appreciative them if you’re fortunate enough to have one (and if you hear of any running free range let me know!).

 

[rennecfox]

Asexual and impotent before my bowel issues started... it's complicated as I was never really looking for a mate but rather a "release" in some regards which is complicated to explain.... in short though... for me the idea of procreation is unattainable and frankly even. if I wasn't firing blanks I wouldn't want to bring a kid into this world.

 

[Tyler007]

Between my IC and other medical issues, dating is virtually impossible. I wouldn't rule it out but it is not something that I see as being likely.

Sarah, being in diapers or other medical issues shouldn’t stop you from dating or finding a partner. I totally understand how difficult it is to find an accepting partner, as I’m in the same boat myself, but it shouldn’t stop you from looking.
I would be interested in chatting with you

 

[MsSara]

Been married and divorced twice. I had bladder issues in both marriages and it was never a problem.

I lost full control and went 24 7 after divorce 2. I've had zero issues finding people to date since then. I'm always super upfront about it, really early on.

General I've had amazing luck. A few bad apples along the way, but that's why I started weeding out issues day one.

 

[diapergamer111]

I still struggle finding a female partner who will accept it

I can relate to that. I’m still trying to find a girl who will accept as well.

 

[Andrewgdfw]

Been married and divorced twice. I had bladder issues in both marriages and it was never a problem.

I lost full control and went 24 7 after divorce 2. I've had zero issues finding people to date since then. I'm always super upfront about it, really early on.

General I've had amazing luck. A few bad apples along the way, but that's why I started weeding out issues day one.

I've got to agree with you there with relatively few exceptions.

 

[Soggy247]

I can relate to that. I’m still trying to find a girl who will accept as well.

Its always easier for a woman to date with any issues, let alone incontinence. . . As a man who is incontinent and in nappies 247, i can tell you thats its not so easy. . . . Luckily ive found my 1, but wow, there's allot of women who are totally disgusted, and if not disgusted, darn right horrible about it. And these are words of experience let me tell you.