I just recently discovered this forum and previously asked for advice as a non-ic person with an ic gf. responses were so useful so I figured I would ask another important question that before I generally would have just googled or figured out myself (lame I know)
My gf is undergoing surgery ( tissue expansion) soon to replace burn scarring on a large part of her stomach and arms ( irrelevant but I’ll mention it anyways). We’ve been warned the post op is going to be restrictive ( minimal movement and some discomfort), and she’ll probably need a lot of pain meds, support and care for the first weeks. With her ic I already know she will need me to take care of all the changing, which I don’t mind. However I want to know from ic people as a non-ic what type of things I have to pay attention to, what supplies I could need, things I could do or say to make her feel better about the situation… I know she likes to be in control of how she handles her ic and I know she will feel terribly ashamed of me having to take charge of everything when she cannot control it herself. I can assure her it doesn’t bother me a bit but of course she doesn’t believe me. She has asked me to change her in the past and she is very comfortable about her condition, it’s just that she always likes to have a say in when or where or how.
I am also kind of worried bc I’ll still have to go to work and college. I work overnight and have class during 2/3h in the evening, so she will have to go without a change for the entire night and a few hours while I’m in class, which kinda worries me as she has a pretty overactive bladder and has several small accidents rather than one or two big ones during the day. How do we avoid leaks/ rashes?
Any ideas are welcome!
My gf is undergoing surgery ( tissue expansion) soon to replace burn scarring on a large part of her stomach and arms ( irrelevant but I’ll mention it anyways). We’ve been warned the post op is going to be restrictive ( minimal movement and some discomfort), and she’ll probably need a lot of pain meds, support and care for the first weeks. With her ic I already know she will need me to take care of all the changing, which I don’t mind. However I want to know from ic people as a non-ic what type of things I have to pay attention to, what supplies I could need, things I could do or say to make her feel better about the situation… I know she likes to be in control of how she handles her ic and I know she will feel terribly ashamed of me having to take charge of everything when she cannot control it herself. I can assure her it doesn’t bother me a bit but of course she doesn’t believe me. She has asked me to change her in the past and she is very comfortable about her condition, it’s just that she always likes to have a say in when or where or how.
I am also kind of worried bc I’ll still have to go to work and college. I work overnight and have class during 2/3h in the evening, so she will have to go without a change for the entire night and a few hours while I’m in class, which kinda worries me as she has a pretty overactive bladder and has several small accidents rather than one or two big ones during the day. How do we avoid leaks/ rashes?
Any ideas are welcome!
