gnd567 said:
We've lived here for 18+ years and most of the neighbors have lived here longer than that and we take care of our neighbor's house across the street when they are out of town so not "friends" with any of them really but know a few of them well enough that it would really be awkward. I'm quite well known in the neighborhood because well... I stick out because I'm legally blind, have long hair and play in a band which is not anything like what anyone else in the neighborhood does or looks like. So, I know quite a few fairly well anyway.
In that case, I'd imagine whoever got it would just bring it to you and not open it. To be safe, though, I wouldn't go around asking about it. Wait for them to come to you. If it's unopened, just say "thanks" and chuckle about the mix-up. If they show up with your box, and they've opened it... deny deny deny
"It's addressed to me? I don't remember ordering anything."
And sell it. If you act embarrassed or uncomfortable, they'll know you ordered it. If you hadn't ordered it, you wouldn't know what's inside until you looked. Look confused or curious at first, don't get defensive, and don't treat it like it's a box of diapers until they've seen you look inside. A little "what the f***?" when you peek inside goes a long way.
Play out the scenario in your head: if you hadn't ordered anything, and weren't expecting a package, how would you react in that situation? I know I'd be a little confused, and a whole lot of curious as to what's inside. My first assumption would
not be diapers. My first assumption would be something that is "normal" for me to own/purchase. Looking inside and finding diapers would come as a shock (even more so if I wasn't a DL).
I'd also be upset that they opened my mail, and being overly forgiving and polite/friendly (to get through the conversation as quickly as possible) may come across as suspicious. Maybe a delicate balance of confusion and irritation? But that depends on who they are and how they approach the situation. If they're being nice about it, and not drawing attention to the contents of the box, I'd just say "thanks" and choke down the embarrassment. If they're coming at you rudely or disrespectfully, react like you would if someone opened your mail and began accusing you of doing something perverse. Take yourself outside of the situation, and react like a non-ABDL would. I'm pretty sure most people would be more than a little upset to find out that someone opened their mail, and then had the audacity to confront them and accuse them of wearing diapers.
But, above all else, whenever possible (and effective)... deny deny deny
If that's not an option, remind yourself that you don't owe anyone an apology for indulging in a harmless interest, even if it is well outside of the norm.