Recent content by philder74

Been DL for a long time and partner accepts that side of me, including being quite happy with wet diapers (I was wearing one when we met!). I poop from time to time, but only when I have the place to myself, and it's starting to feel a bit too secretive. Although not wishing to be 24/7, I find...

I would be extremely wary of anyone (irrespective of relationship status) asking me to surrender control to that extent. That sounds very much like someone manipulating you for their own ends rather than wishing to help you. By all means aim for as full an ABDL lifestyle as you desire, but as...

I don't think there's a link as such, rather it's one coping mechanism amongst many and there's possibly a degree of confirmation bias, given this is an ABDL site. I discovered diapers as a stress relief mechanism well into my 30s, and don't think there was anything in my earlier life that...

Only time I've pooped in anything resembling a public setting was on a late night all-stops train returning from an evening out. Train was empty a few stops before my station and I really needed to go. Initially held off, but in the end decided there was nobody about and I was unlikely to...

I wear Ultimas, and whilst I don't mess them regularly, on the occasions I have used them in that capacity, I've never had any issues, even when staying in them for a few hours before changing.

Maid. Absolutely maid!

Wondering if anyone else here had a girly / sissy side emerge later in life? I'm 49, and over the last few months have started to really feel the desire to explore and express a feminine side. It's not a rejection of male gender identity as such, rather a blurring of the boundaries I've existed...

I often go to bed mildly wet, so ~8 hours or so isn't unusual. Most I've worn a wet diaper from first use through to leakage is about 13 hours. I've slept overnight in a well messed diaper once or twice, mostly when put in a friend's crib and not really given a choice. Messing is rare these...

Of all the bands to accuse of being sellouts, NOFX?! They're the absolute poster child for bands of that era who have stuck to their own way of doing things and eschewed wider commercial success. Selling out isn't about a band becoming popular, it's the decisions taken to achieve that...

Hoglan is a legend. Time Does Not Heal was one of the first "non Big 4" thrash album I bought, along with Forbidden's "Forbidden Evil", Acid Reign's "The Fear" and Nuclear Assault's "Game Over". Pretty decent introduction to the genre! That opened the door to all kinds of things. Currently sat...

Discovered Maiden in 1986 when I was 12 and never really looked back. Thereafter, it was the traditional journey of Big Four, assorted other thrash bands (notably Nuclear Assault, Forbidden, Dark Angel and Acid Reign), early Swedish death metal (Entombed, Grave, Unleashed etc.), second wave...

So much of this resonates with me! I've dabbled with AB things once in a while, but day-to-day life is definitely DL. My main kink outlet is being a puppy, and I've recently found myself exploring non-male gender expression whilst in pup space - skirts and leggings mostly. Diapers feature in...

I wore to bed most nights for a good few years (both dry and already wet) when I was living alone, but never found myself wetting in my sleep, nor having issues when sleeping anywhere when not diapered. I had a phase where I'd have loved to have lost control like that, but that diminished when I...

I'm 49 in a few weeks - discovered ABDL interests back in my early 30s, which feels like a blink of an eye ago, but clearly isn't!

I've changed in public bathrooms numerous times (stations, motorway services etc.). I used to get worked up about people hearing tapes, and would often try to time taping / untaping with someone using the hand dryer so as to cover the noise, but after a while, just stopped worrying and got on...