Yes, one of these again

[diaperedteenager]

Alrighy then...

Well i have been feeling like I want to talk to someone about my DLism. I have this friend, she is the same age as me, very open minded and a liberal. We have been not BEST friends, but like in school friends that talk alot. I feel I can trust her with anything and infact I can. She helped me through some VERY tough times and stood by me. I have been wanting to tell her that I like to wear diapers, for sometime now. I realize that nothing can really come out of this, except maybe she likes them too...lol ya like that'll happen. The only thing I see comming out of this is getting it off my chest and talking to someone about it.

The bad that I see, is that she may think "wow this kid is a freak, he should be drawn and quartered".

I think it isnt likely, but she may reject me forever and think I am freak. But, again unlikely.

What do you all think??? Should I not do it? Should I give it some thought first? OR should I bite the bullet and do it?

Your experiences and knowlage is needed please and thank you!

 

[Morbidkitten]

If you think that you can trust her, go for it. Worst thing that could happen is that she says you're a freak. If that does happen, well... Looks like she's not a very good friend. :]

 

[dinorider]

Actually, worst case scenario: She thinks you're a freak and goes on telling everybody what a freak you are. Not that it sounds likely from how you describe here, but the possibility is there.

If you really want to tell her, try easing into the subject. Try to bring up the topic of fetishes and get a general feel for how she looks at them and the people who have them. Especially the weirder ones (like diaper fetishism). In case she seems to have a problem with it, don't tell her. If she doesn't, still think hard about it and then possibly tell her. That's what I did with one of my friends, and after making sure he wouldn't think a person with a strange fetish is a freak I told him.

Whatever happens, good luck!

 

[Darkfinn]

Sometimes the urge to tell someone is just a part of the fetish... AB/DLs can get a naughty thrill when other people know that they are wearing.

I strongly urge anyone thinking of disclosing their AB/DLism to friends or family to reconsider. Sleep on it for a week or so... read some horror stories and ways that telling others has backfired on people, posts like that are on all the major boards. Think it over for a bit, then if you still think it is a good idea go for it.

 

[diaperedteenager]

Will do! I have trusted her with some of my secrets, such as my awful depression I had a few years ago and the time when I almost killed myself. I told her about that and she was supportive of me and stuff...

Even if she thinks it is weird I think she'll just be like "okay, thats weird...but okay" and just shake it off. I think 100% that she wont tell anyone.

 

[wetatnight]

I would ask her hypothetically if some one she knew that they loved to wear diapers what would she say or do.
then based on her reaction, you can decide if or if not to tell her.

 

[Mesmerale]

I would ask her hypothetically if some one she knew that they loved to wear diapers what would she say or do.
then based on her reaction, you can decide if or if not to tell her.

That wouldn't work...

That just straight up would not work. The instant you ask "hypothetically" it's known that you're talking about yourself.

 

[jter42]

That wouldn't work...

That just straight up would not work. The instant you ask "hypothetically" it's known that you're talking about yourself.

Yep thats the bad thing about hypothetically nowadays. Its gotten a reputation for meaning yourself, thus eliminating easy conversations and getting opinions. That is my theo-*riiinnnggg*

Class dismissed. :educate:

 

[Dark Bringer]

You say that you're not best friends but talk a lot in school. Do you think you'll hang out a lot after high school? Would it be a major loss if she rejected you?
I think easing her into it is a good idea. Start general maybe like "have you ever felt like you wanted to be younger at times? because I have." Perhaps having an emotional bridge that she could relate to and connect with your reason for liking diapers.
In my case, that would be asking her about if she had any memories of being a baby. I would say that I don't which always bothered me since I'm obsessed with past memories. Again, that's my example, I'm sure you can think of something similar that applies to you.

 

[diaperedteenager]

okay, but diapers dont remind me of childhood, they are just a nice stress releavier. I could lead in with something like... what do you do to relevie stress? and some how lead into diapers. How does hat sound?

 

[Prussic_aux]

You say that you're not best friends but talk a lot in school. Do you think you'll hang out a lot after high school? Would it be a major loss if she rejected you?
I think easing her into it is a good idea. Start general maybe like "have you ever felt like you wanted to be younger at times? because I have." Perhaps having an emotional bridge that she could relate to and connect with your reason for liking diapers.
In my case, that would be asking her about if she had any memories of being a baby. I would say that I don't which always bothered me since I'm obsessed with past memories. Again, that's my example, I'm sure you can think of something similar that applies to you.

I could see that working quite well.

Anyway, I have told two of my best friends with high success. But all I can say is it really depends on how you tell her (Through MSN, Phone or Face To Face) The reason I had success is because I got talking to them about their fetishes, try to get into a conversation about fetishes, and if she tells you that she has one then you tell her yours. And, if you're on MSN or another IM program, then a wikipedia or infantalism.org link couldn't hurt

Hope this helps

 

[Dark Bringer]

I'd like to add you could ask her if she's ever seen a "Secret Lives of Women" episode. And show her that as well as the Tyra one if you think you'll need a little help.

 

[diaperedteenager]

what would be the best way to tell her? Online by phine or face to face?

 

[Left]

the suggestion coming from here would be
NO
absoultuly dont
not worth it

 

[Mesmerale]

okay, but diapers dont remind me of childhood, they are just a nice stress releavier. I could lead in with something like... what do you do to relevie stress? and some how lead into diapers. How does hat sound?

Really really hard?

It'd be stretch to do, be clearly forced (no doubt) and probably lead to assumptions before the real explanation gets out.

 

[conatus]

i would say keep your mouth shut about it.

 

[Milla]

Well, my most recent girlfriend was incredibly open to my fetish. I just manned up and initiated the conversation as such:

"Rachel, you want to hear something that will make you giggle?"
"Sure Milla."
"I like to wear diapers for fun."
:laugh:"That's adorable.":laugh:

And the boyfriend that I had before that, I also told him about my interests. 'Course neither of them got into it with me (Though my ex-girlfriend possessed gratuitous amounts of both adorable and win when she was sucking on a pacifier ^^), they simply acknowledged it and chuckled about my fetish with me from time to time.

I've since parted ways with both of them, and am still on good terms with both (the girl moreso than the guy, however). Neither of them went around spewing this to any of my friends or any of their friends, so, mazle tov on my part!

However, perhaps I've only stumbled across some good luck. My life is of course not yours. If you think that the relationship is a long lasting one with serious potential to continue into the future, then you should be able to be honest with her.

"Baby, can you keep a secret?"

Trust is a major foundation of a relationship as is understanding and acceptance. Even if she's a bit turned off by the thought, repulsed even, if the relationship is good, then everything should be peachy.

As it was posted above somewhere, my memory and laziness to click the back button both come to me at the moment, there are two things to consider:

1: Is the relationship worth losing?
There is a large chance that many a woman may break up with you if this sort of thing comes into play. You may think at first "thank God that's over, she hated me for who I was." But even in that situation, you may not know what you have until it's gone.

2: Is she the kind of person that would spill this secret?
'Nuff said

Now, you don't really have to tell her, even in the course of the full scale relationship. Everyone keeps secrets, but if a relationship is cemented and sincere, secrets can, though not always must, be let out to the partner.

Your next move is simply this: Yours. You're the person in the relationship, so your judgment is what comes into play here. Take things slowly, act wisely, and for Christ sake, don't ask her to participate. Not a good move unless you know that she shares similar kinks.

I actually found a useful strategy on 4chan once. To be used at your discretion mind you, but this is something that might work out:

"Hey hon, you know what would be funny?"

"What?"

"If I wore a diaper."

then the response might be:

"Uggh! That's sick/creepy/downright outlandish (though perhaps not those exact words)! Why'd you even think about that?"

and you say:

"It was just a joke honey, chill.:

Now, if she says:

"Yeah, that would be kinda funny!" Or anything similar.

You say:

"Hah, it would wouldn't it. Want me to try it sometime?"

With this you can play things off as a joke if they go awry, ending the entire tangent harmlessly and hopefully without future upbringings.

Aaaaaaand if they go your way, then perform the following actions:

Do this arty: While we do this :claps: Then party some more, but in a classy manner :tophat: + :cigar: and hopefully you can start doing this aci: more frequently!

Well, that was my :twocents: Verboseness ends here.

:educate:

 

[dogboy]

DarkBringer said something that made me think you shouldn't tell her, and that phrase was "when you're out of high school." Things are so different when you are an adult. As an adult, you would never tell your friends, which will be more casual and not as close. Now imagine that you have gone to college and graduated, and have come back to your home for a great job opportunity. You meet some of your old friends from high school. But behind your back they're saying, "Yeah, you remember him. He's the one who wore diapers in high school. That girl friend of his told everyone!" As adults, are lives are so much different than when we were 16. I would go with caution.

 

[g6s]

Will do! I have trusted her with some of my secrets, such as my awful depression I had a few years ago and the time when I almost killed myself. I told her about that and she was supportive of me and stuff...

Even if she thinks it is weird I think she'll just be like "okay, thats weird...but okay" and just shake it off. I think 100% that she wont tell anyone.

Telling someone about depression invokes pity and worry. Its a sensitive subject that most people would be open about. Diapers are not. Don't be a fool. Don't tell her. Please.

what would be the best way to tell her? Online by phine or face to face?

DON'T DO IT.

 

[Dark Bringer]

what would be the best way to tell her? Online by phine or face to face?

I think for most things personal, it's generally preferred to be face to face. But online is ok if you feel you can't be present.

Does she have a facebook with an honesty box? You could send her an anonymous message saying one of her close real life friends likes to wear diapers and then tell her to signal a reply about how she feels with a coded status update. :detective3
"____ is feeling cuddly" could be OK with it. :cloud9:
"____ is annoyed at people" could be not ok. :growup:
or maybe "the baby is asleep." Can anyone name the movie that uses that line as a coded message?

Either way, something like that would be a vague enough status that no one else would likely have any idea what it really means.