I have read posts about involving a spouse or even telling a spouse about this interest. I admire wives that will even listen to anything about the subject. Mine, I know, would not. I approached the subject from an abstract viewpoint. Read where some elected official was found to have hired a prostitute who would dress him in diapers. Mentioned it to my wife. She was vocal that this would drive her to divorce and I never brought it up again. Guess I was naive to think that she would want to even participate in any way. Should have realized it. Earlier in our marriage I suggested that she wear sexy stuff for me and she turned me down flat.